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writes:I just want to know if I'm always going to be single/lonely? Meaning will I ever find a boyfriend? I'm 19 and everybody tells me I'm pretty but if I was pretty wouldn't I have a boyfriend?? I had my first boyfriend when I was 17 and I regret the whole thing! We were not good together, he was disrespectful to me and I was disrespectful back to him. And the sex only lasted for 5 mins. I guess I was... I don't even know. Then I had sex a year later with this guy who I've known for about a year, and we just had sex but I really liked him. Even tho we don't talk anymore, I wish we still did so I wouldn't feel lonely. Everybody around me has a boy/girlfriend and I'm happy for them but what about me? Like am I meant to be alone forever? I haven't talk to a guy on the phone or have fun with in like 5 months. And no I don't go no where, that's because I have no way, I'm trying to start school and I work well I don't know what's going on with my job. =( Reply to this Question
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reader, peeptoe +, writes (18 November 2010):
You are so young to be worried about these things! I felt that way too, though. Just be yourself. Do things you like to do. Focus on school and being the best person you can be. Do things that interest you and you will find other people who like to do those things. THen you will meet someone that likes you because of who you are. I have gone through times when there seemed to be no one that liked me (romantically) and then I'd start a new hobby or activity and there would be all these available men! (Usually, I'd have a boyfriend then, so couldn't even take advantage of that great opportunity!) Sports are a fantastic way to feel good about yourself and meet new friends. Get involved in a league and play softball or volleyball or bowling or rugby or whatever you are interested in. When you are out with other young people having fun, you will meet lots of other good people and things will literally just happen. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): Yes you will have a boyfriend soon. But being pretty doesnt automatically mean they will flock to you. You have to be bold and put yourself out there to catch their attention. Maybe start going out a little more. Get a girlfriend to give you a make over, learn how to chat up the guys. Flirt and have fun. The boys will soon start to take an interest. Aim to make friends with them first and hold back on sex, until youve found one who wants to be around you because he likes you for who you are. You wont be single for long x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): Hey!
OH gosh! I feel you! I feel the exact same way you feel. I have NEVER had a real boyfriend and i am 19. I was dating this one guy but i guess things didnt work out because he ended up breaking up with me. I guess I was not ready to be in a committed relationship. I actually feel like a monster. Indeed, I sometimes I have to look at myself for long periods of time just to see what I have different from my friends because most of them have boyfriends OR if they are single they are talking to multiple guys.
Don't worry friend, we will find someone. I bet there is a guy out there feeling the same way and he is looking for you!! For right now, let' focus on school and we will eventually find the one :)
And yes, guys are sometimes scared of talking to us, especially if they feel inferior to us. Ahhh....
Good luck!!!
Smile and enjoy this beautiful age because once it passes we can no longer live it again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): Oh babe I know how you feel except for the sex part I'm not going to do that for a while lol:] Well anyways I don't really know who you are but I'm sure you are very pretty:] Every girl is pretty in their own way whether it is the personilty that catches the attention or the looks. Well I have had moments in my life where I have felt no one loves me either but sometimes it turns out the boys were all to shy to come and talk to me. But hun I bet someday there will be someone for you and he will be your lover for a long time but right now we are teens and we are going through puberty and we don't really know what we want until we are older. Right now boys are stupid so just stay strong until then:] Good luck:]
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 I know it may feel that way. I think a lot of people may have had moments where they thought that surely, they would live a lonely life but that is not true. You will meet someone in time. Just be patient and keep friends around you, be happy and one day you will meet a man who will cherish all you are.
I hope that helps.
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