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writes:Hi Agony Aunts! I think I'm gay and have thought that I am for over a year but I can't help feeling that I might be bi.The thing is I don't see straight porn attractive I see gay porn attractive I don't like boobs but I am slightly attracted to girls asses but I am attracted to guys bums and junk. I don't see dumb girls attractive I see girls and think their pretty and feel quite lightheaded I rarely experience this with guys. I'm really confused I don't see straight sex attractive and don't get excited when I watch it if you catch my drift and do with gay could it be a different story when I fall in love with a girl? I see myself with a girl in the future not a guy and I feel quite pressured as well to be straight because I'm the last one to be able to carry on my family name Please Help! am I 100% gay or 50/50
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 February 2012):
 You may be straight
you may be gay
you may be bi
whatever you are... it is what it is.... and you have to learn to accept and love yourself there...
no rush to put a label on yourself... this is the time of your life when you figure out what does turn you on and what works for you...
sexuality is not cut and dried... it's a sliding scale...
don't pressure yourself to label yourself so soon.... just take your time and let it happen naturally and you will figure it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): I agree that at a young age, its too soon to self assign yourself of a pick this or this. To what I hear, you are turned on and your lust is ignited by the kink of gay porn but romantically want a loving relationship and future and family with a woman.
Fetishes, turn ons, attraction, sex and THEN sexual intimacy and love are not necessarily in the same realm or category. I think a lot of people mislabel such things and thus springs forth the confusion about sexual orientation.
So far, it sounds like you are heterosexual but get sexually excited by the taboo of gay porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): I kinda went through the same situation as you. I'm a girl, but I often found myself watching girls and being attracted to them. At the same time, I felt that those feelings were wrong so I had to like guys. And I was attracted to guys, but it was super rare for me to like one. I was about 15 when this began happening, and it's an age where we are still growing and we're not sure what we want. I decided to wait a bit more before actually deciding on my sex preference. I feared that if I told my parents I was gay/bi they would freak out and never talk to me. Yet I didn't want to label myself straight when I knew I had all these feelings. Later I started to ask myself why I was attracted to girls and I thought I was bi and I was okay with that. I started to "experiment" and even though I liked the emotional support and confidence being with a girl gave me, I felt something was missing. When I turned 17 a lot of things came up, and I found out that I wasn't bi. I was actually drawn to girls because I was seeking a "mother" in them. I didn't have a good relationship with my mom at the time so I looked for that maternal love in girls. I had always imagined ending up with a guy even when I was dating a girl. And when I began to realize why I was attracted to girls, I knew it wasn't a real attraction.
I recommend you wait till you're older, and don't feel pressured by anything. Thinking about children at your age is probably too soon. Wait till you're more mature, then decide what you want. And don't be afraid to try different things. It might actually help you realize who you really are. Good luck and hope I helped. :)
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reader, Rachelle123 +, writes (12 February 2012):
Hi. I am a 13 year old girl and I'm here to help! My school has millions of gay and bi people, and I'm totally not against it. If you think your gay but you still have an interest in girls, then it is possible that you may be bi. If you like a specific gender a lot more than the opposite gender, then if it's male you are most likely gay and if it's female you are most likely straight with a slight interest in guys. I think your neither 100% gay nor 50/50, I think you are just a little confused. Follow your heart, and remember, there is nothing wrong with being gay or bi. Hope I helped! :)
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