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writes:My boyfriend want's me to spend the nite all the time now that's great but I can't and everytime I tell him why he thinks i'm lying. It's always the same fight why don't you spend the nite more or hang out. I work all kinds of strange hours and I'm always tired. I have 3 animals and they don't like to be left alone and I can't bring them to his place because he is allergic to them and be says there is nothing he can take to help him out... I am so sick and tired of this same fight day after day I really don't know what to do anymore any kind of advice would be really appreciated at this point. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 October 2011):
 sadly all I can do is say best of luck
it's going to come down to a choice.
you may choose your animals... and he has to know this.
I know many people that have picked their pets over a potential life partner...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 October 2011):
 Well you are just going to need to stand up to him and tell him you are fed up. If he is still not willing to make an effort well then maybe you should question just how much you mean to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have talked talked to him Many times...
He says that everything he takes makes him drowsy so he wont even try anything new.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (12 October 2011):
Talk to him that's the only thing that you can do, explain to him that even though he is a big part of your life and that you love him you still have other responsibilities that you cannot just abandon. He is expecting you to do all the work while he just sits back. This is not how the relationship is meant to be. He needs to meet you in the middle. OK so he has allergies to your animals that is fair enough, but has he even tried going to the doctors to see if they can give him tablets for his allergies? He is being quite selfish, you need to stand up for yourself and tell him you don't need this added stress and also if you are tired then he should understand that.
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