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writes:Hi, I am having a problemI'm only 21 which I know is considered pretty young, but I feel like I will never have a boyfriend. I've had a couple of 'boyfriends' back in high school that didn't really last long and they weren't that serious about me.Anyways, I've been single for 3 years or so. On top of that, I don't even know many guys in my area that I could even possibly date. So I don't really know where to meet guys.I don't go to college (something I plan on doing in the future but not right now) but I do work. I work in retail (which I know isn't the best job) and it's definitely not the type of place to meet a guy.I don't drink or party, so clubs/bars are kind of out of the question, I think dating sites are kind of a joke (not to sound mean). So I'm not really sure where to meet someone. Any ideas on where someone like me can meet someone? Reply to this Question
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (13 April 2014):
 Hey! Even though I am younger than you, I have found myself in the same position as you.
I have only had boyfriends during my highschool days and they were a complete joke, since then I haven't met anyone special, my town is a quiet remote seaside town so not many new people turn up, dating sites have never given me any results and I don't get out much so there isn't really anyone there.
So I understand how you feel, as most the time you don't want to be lonely anymore but the situation you are in is just out of your control.
But I guess there are two ways which you can go about this. The first way is you go out and you find someone, which is harder than it sounds, as it would involve maybe going clubbing, going out for drinks in bars or traveling to new places and seeing who you could meet, there are also other things you could get yourself in to such as speed dating sessions, or a club or something which is based around an interest or hobbie you like. These are all ways to meet new people. (also social networking can help a lot)
And then there is the second way, which is where you do nothing and wait for someone to find you, and even though it may of been 3 years, surprises do happen and people do show up, but of course this way will involve you waiting and it could involve you waiting for another couple of years but some people are happy to do that.
I guess that is pretty much the choice you have to make if you want to do something about this, even if it might be time consuming, if you really wanna find someone you need to get yourself out there and start looking.
Good Luck x
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (13 April 2014):
 don't give up on yourself, don't get into despair or lower your standards. maybe your friends can sit you up with a guy or a friend of their boyfriend knows. if you attend church look to meet someone in your age range, if no young people attend at that church you may want to look at visiting a different church.
clubs/bars is not a good place to meet a life time mate, i will agree with you there. they are more of a hookup/ one night stand place to meet.
don,t give up on yourself their is someone out there for you , you just have to bump into them, and they are looking to bump into you also.
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