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writes:Hey everyone I have a question/problemWhat's the best way to deal with your partner talking with their ex? And how can I stop feeling so insecure and bad about it?Through out my relationship with my boyfriend, I know he stays in touch with an ex from over a year ago who hurt him pretty badly. I know he had an amazing relationship with her and thought she was absolutely perfect until he found out she cheated on him. He was in denial for a long time about their break up. I can't help but feel so insecure about his ex. I know he was head over heels in love with her. And now when they talk I just wonder what they have to talk about. He's said he's completely over her but of course he's going to say that. What are the signs that a guy still wants his ex?
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reader, woodlandpirate  +, writes (6 January 2014):
 Don´t get obssessed about it! I had a similar experience with my ex girlfriend. She was constantly talking to some of her exes and even fwb´s and I occassionally got a bit irritated and obssessed about it....anway..How long you guys have been together? How much time was in between the relationships for him? She might keep him as ego boost or just as wingman....you mentioned their "perfect" rs....in that case no would ever cheat! Period. Maybe he has no closure about it...Why don´t you just ask him? It´s necessary to talk to eachother and to be honest in an healthy relationship.Ask yourself if you are happy with the situation. I mean if he is commited to you, you should be important and someone from the past.Don´t worry too much, it´ll drive you nuts and the outcome is nothing. Just talk, ask questions if you don´t feel good about whats happening. It´s not selfish!
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reader, woodlandpirate +, writes (6 January 2014):
Hi, I had a similar problem with my ex girlfriend. She had almost constantly contact with more exes of hers, even some fwb´s and it confused me sometimes...occasionally I got a bit obssessed about it..anyway...how long have you guys been togehter? How much time was there in between of the relationships? Is he giving you what you need in the relationship?From my experience I know that it´s hard to move on from someone, when the break up was exhausting and there was no closure...maybe that is the case here. You mentioned a "perfect" relationship...but no one would cheat, if it was perfect...maybe she keeps him as ego boost and he doesn´t realize that she´s playing him along...Don´t get obssessed about what they talk, please, it will drive you nuts and the outcome is nothing! Why don´t you just ask him? Being honest is necessary in a healthy relationship and if he is commited to you there shouldn´t be a reason to have such an intense contact with an ex from the past. If he has something to hide from you than it´s maybe not worth your time....I hope this helps a bit, listen to your guts...and be honest to your self about what you want and what not!
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