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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:please help.To cut a long story short, I was played and lied to by someone I loved. He was living a double life telling me I was his gf when he already had one. I was the one that never met his family and friends. The only reason I can think that he did this was that he enjoyed sex with me. Its been about 3 months since I found out. (when I did, I felt physically sick.) I never got a straight answer about what was really going on, I had to guess from the evidence I found.Its like a never ending string of lies that pour out of his mouth. Which is very frustrating when all you want to hear is the truth. Anyway, just as I'm getting on with my life, I found out I was lied to a lot more than I previously thought. This really vexed me. and brought all the emotions to the surface again.This whole drama has affected my life outside relationships. I can't stand the idea of anyone using me or lying to me at all. I've overreacted to minor situations with my friends which I wouldn't have before.I'm even snappy with my boss at work.He's happy with his current girlfriend. (and I know he has cheated on her, too btw) while I'm left alone.I feel its unfair that he was the one that cheated on me and yet I'm the one that's left emotionally scarred whilst he is happy.I've always tried to be a good person and care for others and I feel like he has tainted me. Not that it was my fault or anything. But I feel bad that I was like 'the other girl', the one on the side. (Even though I had no idea at the time that I was.) I got over him a while ago, I guess I just want to forget it all, How do I do this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): Mate, we have all been here. The good news is that you will spot this scenario much easier next time around.
Time really is the only answer. You will indeed forget about this whole thing again if you have no contact with the ****. Rise above it and hold your head high. There are nice men out there, and you will find one.x
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