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writes:Help! I'm 18 and I think I'm the only virgin out of all my friends. They all have girlfriends and I've tried and failed to find someone. Even when I did it only lasted a month. The rest of my friends have been in relationships for 4 months at least and every now and again I get the impression that they have slept with their girlfriends at least once.I know I should commit to a girl before sleeping with her but since everyone keeps talking about sex, it just gets me more angst and my self esteem take a hit. I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2006): Being a virgin at 18 is no big deal, trust me. if u r not in a relationship then being a virgin is understandable. ur friends actually seem pretty decent as there not bragging to you about sex or steady relationships.Ur self esteem has taken a hit because ur worrying about how other people think. u just have to wait for the right relationship. just think how low ur self esteem would be if u slept with a random girl n never heard from her again.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (29 May 2006):
 My friend is 24 years old and still a virgin.
My other friend is 24 and lost her virginity at 17, at a party, drunk with some random guy.
Who do you reckon complains the most about their situation?
The later of course is always saying she wished she had have waited until someone special came along and how she regrets it etc.
I say wait until you are with someone you really want to lose it to. You will never regret waiting for someone you really care about.
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reader, bonym +, writes (28 May 2006):
 My friend, I totally agree with reader anon. It is not a race so there should be no hurry! Can I tell you something, when I was a bit younger i.e. around 13, 14 etc my friend "Anon" would go on about what she did with this guy and how many "orgasms" she had etc only to find out around 8 years later i.e when she was 21 that she was in fact a virgin! I laughed cos I thought why do you need to lie for? I was a virgin throughout those days and I never once lied about it, I wasnt ashamed, I was in no hurry to lose it. I thought, my time will come, I aint ready yet, I am happy and content. There is such a stigma attached to virginity these days, but dont worry. Some of your mates may not be as "experienced" as you think. xXx
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reader, Smiler +, writes (28 May 2006):
 Hey Therewell firstly sweetie don't rush into sex for the sake of peer pressure, thats possibly the worse thing you could do....so you have not had sex so you are single, enjoy the feeling. don't be so hard on yourself here you don't have to do something just cause everyone else is doing it.. in fact sweetie you may even find out that the next girl your with will respect you more for having actually committed yourself to her and held on to your virginity! i know i would. Babe your virginity is such a presious thing, your fist time should be filled with love and enjoyment for both you and the other person and not just tossed in there on a one night stand. trust me on this one ok, you stand your ground follow your heart find a girl have a meaningful relationship and then when your both ready and comfortable to take the next step and sleep together using protection and you will enjoy it so much more oki hope i have been able to help you You Take Care X
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): Hey there
You shouldn't be feeling left out at all. OK so you haven't got a girlfriend and haven't had sex yet. What's the rush??? it's not a race!!
You are very right that you should commit to a girl before sleeping with her, it's exactly the right way. Please don't go rushing into finding a girl for the sake of sleeping with her just to keep up with your mates!
You never know, your mates could be exaggerating a little, and even if they're not, YOUR time will come, i promise. It will be worth the wait in the end and you will feel so much better for waiting later.
Good luck and take care
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