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Farting, Burping, and Swearing in Relationships

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Article - (4 May 2010) 2 Comments - (Newest, 24 May 2010)
A female United States age 51-59, bootydoctors writes:

Pinkee here~ Yes, I thought I’d bring up this politically incorrect topic. I mean, the way a lot of people are about this stuff, I’m almost wondering if it’s okay to talk about it, never mind do it. But in the Booty Doctors tradition, I am taking the path less traveled and talking about it anyway.

Let’s just get one thing straight here: No matter how squeamish your partner might pretend to be, even SHE farts, burps, and probably sometimes swears, too. At least the first two are a fact of life. Now, although that is true, it does pay to be a little polite and discreet, especially at certain times, in terms of your relationship.

If you are one of those guys who thinks it’s acceptable, or even funny, to fart loudly in the presence of others, you should be warned that most women don’t find this acceptable or attractive. Yes, we know you fart, yes we know you can’t help it, but no, we really don’t want to hear it or smell it if at all avoidable. Try to be quiet or silent about it, especially when others are present besides just the two of you. Two considerate things you could do are: go into another room and deposit the fart there, then come back. Or, if you’re in the car, put the window down momentarily to air things out a bit.

Beyond that, there’s something almost comforting about the first time you (probably accidentally) fart in front of each other. It kind of lets the other person know you are human, not perfect, and they let you know that you are still lovable by not running away from you when you just dropped a bomb on the couch. Of course, it is still considered socially correct to say “excuse me” after farting, whether you are with your “Boo” or not.

There is really no reason to burp out loud unless it is accidental. Bu if you do burp in front of her then of course saying “excuse me” is a very acceptable way out of it. Only children and adolescents (and extremely immature adults) think burping out loud is funny.

When it comes to swearing, however, the Booty Doctors say: it’s okay. Now, that does not mean we want every other word out of your mouth to be the F-bomb. This kind of speech gives the impression that you are unintelligent and low-class. However, most women don’t really mind an occasional swear, especially if you are feeling passionate about something or are really trying to make a point. In my opinion, men seem to apologize a lot for swearing in the presence of a lady. That feels, to me, almost like you do not accept me as your equal. It’s like you’re putting me in another category other than your peer, which is what I actually am. I guess swearing in front of each other is like another way of admitting, hey, I’m not perfect. And then, if you swear in front of her, she has the opportunity to love all of you, even your occasionally trashy mouth, and to be her imperfect self around you.

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A female reader, bootydoctors United States +, writes (24 May 2010):

bootydoctors is verified as being by the original poster of the question

bootydoctors agony auntYes I agree, as with everything else, communication is the key!

Pinkee

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A female reader, tu.paloma United States +, writes (21 May 2010):

hello,

My bf burps and farts in front of me all the time, but we are always alone never in public. however, if i burp he finds it utterly disgusting but if i fart with him he says "omg i want to live!" and covers his nose. Just talk it out with your partner and know how they feel about your unpredictable bodily functions.

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