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writes: i 20 and i really really like my mates 18 yr old younger sister but i think he would kill me if he found out.....i a pretty unluckey guy and she accidently found out that i do like her....she now always says stuff, that no one other than her and i can pick up, that refers to the fact that i have feelings for her....i know her brother would kill me and i dont know how she feels....i dont know wat to do i have tried to make the feelings go away but for some reason i cant...should i forget bout it, go for it or just keep bein good friends with her and see wat happens in the future...i dont want to lose her friendship because she a really close friend as well Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2006): I went out with my brothers friend and from my experience it isn't a good thing. It was ok when we all were getting along, but if my bro and I were fighting, he'd tell my bf stuff that was embarrasing about me. If I talked to any guy even as a friend, it always got back to my bf, and the same if he talked to any girls. My brother was like stuck in the middle because he got mad if he thought his friend was doing things to upset me like saying some girl was hot.When we broke up it was even worse because my brothers friend was still at the house all the time and when I had other guys come over it was awkward. So I would say don't go with your friends sister unless they live in different houses and you can deal with the sort of stuff I told you about
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006): There are two reasons guys don't want their friends to date their younger sisters. 1. He knows you and how you've been with other girls. More than likely, he's suspicious about your true motives with his sister. It's fine to hook up randomly with girls you've just met, but if anything's going to happen with you and his sister, it better be because you think she is simply out of this world and you can't imagine anyone who would be more suited to you. After all - in a brother's eyes, his sister deserves no less than unwavering devotion from any guy who sees her.2. He's worried about how it will affect the friendship between the two of you. If things go south with you and his sister (and statistically speaking, they probably will, eventually - you're 20, she's 18 ... not many relationships at that age end up in marriage) it'll be weird for you to be over at the house. And he'll feel torn in his loyalties. Should he have to take sides?If you guys really are close, and you REALLY like his sister, my guess is that he'd eventually be okay with it, as long as you really respected her and treated her well (and assuming he could believe, up front, that you would do so). THe first thing to do is figure out what she thinks of all this. Since she's always dropping hints about it, my guess is that either she likes you, or she's really mean. I'd put more money on the first one. Get her alone some time and talk to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006): Hi, I don't know the relationship between you and your mate but if you tell him about other crushes you've had this shouldn't be an exeption. If he is a real friend then it shouldn't affect your friendship. He will probably know her better than most and could give you some advice about what she would like. I hope it works out well. Best of luck; Fairy Help-a-lot
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