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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:How to choose? I feel better now that I know there are so many girls with the same problem. I broke up with my x of 15 years and starting dating his friend. It is a secret. It's been 3 years now. 2 years ago I tried to work things out with x and have been this whole time seeing both. X makes me feel uncomfortable and talks down to me. Friend makes me feel good and we have a real connection. We both work for x. I feel trapped. Friend is not financially stable so it scares me to pick him. I dint want to feel like a golddigger but I know I'd be set with x. My secret has been found out my my friends and family and it's not good. It's affecting my health and sanity.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 September 2010):
 Money doesn't make a relationship...and you work for X, so he's your boss?
Look into your work's fraternization policy, chances are there's nothing they can do about your relationship with friend. X talks down to you, makes you feel uncomfortable, is an ex for a reason, but has money. Friend you have a great connection with, he treats you well, but doesn't have that much money. Well you better pick one before, X fires both you and friend if he finds out about friend. Then you won't have either. Sounds like money is a deciding factor, which does make you look like a gold digger. In that case you would pick X. If it were about the better choice overall then I would pick friend. Your choice.
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