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writes:so my situation is this, i met a guy while i was still in a relationship (that was already falling apart), this guy and i had sex it was AMAZING!! at first i thought its just for fun. I break up with the bf since it just wasnt working out. I continue to see this guy which by the way has a gf too!! its been 4weeks, he calls me texts me everyday everymorning, on my days off wants to meet me for breakfast, shows up at my gym, would do anything to spend even 5 mins with me, i stayed at his place, our connection is unbelievable, we look at each other and it takes our breath away. he has no problem telling me how much he misses me and how he feels. eventually he tells me he cant beleive hes falling for me, then i realize i am falling for him too. we talk eveyday, he calls me 'babe' 'my love'. he tells me he knows this situation is crappy bcuz someone will end up hurt if he makes a descision. he told me he loves his gf but is not 'in love' with her. so i just wonder when will this end? as hard and as much as it will kill me should i cut it off? is it wrong to continue seeing him and hoping he will choose to leave her for us? i just dont know what to do, i never felt this way with someone, i know he feels that way too but why cant he just be with me? i know its wrong he has a gf, i feel bad for her. but we couldnt help it, we fell. now what?
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reader, healthyRN +, writes (4 January 2010):
healthyRN is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys for advice....taken:..(
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): I got this saying from a friend s wall on facebook and had to share it with you........ "Women might be able to fake orgasms. But men can fake whole relationships."
I think you know deep down inside that if he loved you, he would end his relationship and not go home pretending all is well. I think you should tell him to make up his mind before seeing you again. This love but not “in-love” crap is just a smoke screen to justify what he is doing. Listen to your instincts they are right. How far has he really fell for you? His actions (still with GF)speak louder than his words.
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reader, healthyRN +, writes (2 January 2010):
healthyRN is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's not married, he's in relationship with a girl on and off for 5years and the longest they lasted was 7montgs at once. But I'm not trying to justify the situation, it feels like were falling in love and I know he is by the signs and he tells me constantly, but ur right ive never been second and here I am. I am breaking it off even if it kills me!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 January 2010):
Yes, easier said than done. Just focus on your future and ask yourself what you want from life. Do you want to be second best to a married man who is using you, or can you see you deserve better and deserve a man who will adore you.
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reader, healthyRN +, writes (2 January 2010):
healthyRN is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, easier said than done though!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 January 2010):
You've seen the problem. If he really liked you, he'd be with you. As it is, he's just using you. End it and move on.
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