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writes:I guess that as soon as you read the title you’ll think I’m some stupid little girl with a crush on her teacher and perhaps I am - it doesn’t feel like just a crush. It feels like so much more than that but I don’t use the word ‘love’ lightly. I don’t really know how to describe what I feel. What I do know is that what I feel is something I really shouldn’t be feeling. I’ll try and not make this too long and I won’t write an essay about why I feel the way I do. I’ll just give you some details and ask a few questions.Firstly, he’s young 32 and may have a girlfriend – he used to but I don’t know anymore. I’m a relatively mature 16 and very single. He’s not really good-looking – just cute; he’s just really caring and funny. I’ve been feeling like this for quite a long and it has been a gradual process but when it began I was sure it would stop really quickly, it hasn’t. We’re both Christians and have had several conversations about our faith (that’s not the only thing we talk about) so I know we share the same values and all that. He’s my form tutor so I see him every morning which doesn’t help. I’m in year 11 and am going to a different school next year and was wondering whether I should tell him. I’m not expecting anything from him, I would just like a bit of closure. If I do tell him, how should I? And if not, how else can I get closure?If you’re going to comment on this with words such as ‘get over him, it can never happen’ please don’t bother. I know that nothing can ever happen and I’ve been trying to get over him for ages. I would just like to move on when I leave as these feeling are really getting me down.Thank you for listening to a very confused teenager for a little while. Comments and suggestions would be much appreciated.?
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (4 January 2009):
well all i can say it that at the end of the day you are a student and he is a teacher. it is wrong for him to cross the boundary and have a relationship with a student. he would loose his job and probably would not beable to teach again. all you can do is slowly get over him and learn to let go, as nothing can happen. plus he is 32, i know that is young, but it is far too old for a 16 year old. you need to maybe concentrate on boys your own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): You both share the same values and you haven't really given any details as to why you feel for him. Your prepared for rejection and your leaving so why don't you take the moment to write him a letter/note/poem and give it to him? If it's closure you want then make it happen.
If you decide not to go through with it then leave it and keep it in your head. Live life on and enjoy the company around you. It's normal to fantasize about someone. But be prepared to probably send a few years asking yourself "what if!!" and "Oh I should have done it"
If you do go through with it be prepared to feel your heart racing, the humiliation and that feeling of being sick in your gut when you pucker up the courage to do it. Not to mention the rejection feeling and again asking yourself "what if" because he may not answer you.
It's your choice if you want to act on your "FEELINGS"
Go ahead because no one can answer your question but you.
Good Luck....
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reader, xCharliix +, writes (2 January 2009):
 Reply please!!. She's my mate and she really needs advice!
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reader, xCharliix +, writes (22 December 2008):
Hey!
I'm in exactly the same situation..
Read mine if you want anyone :)
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/fallen-for-my-math-teacher.html
but i know what's it like. it's so confusing. you just wish and wish that it could happen.. and i suppose there is a 99.9999999999% chance that it could happen..
It has happened before
:)
Read mine if you (anyone) feel in the same situation
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