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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and all he ever talks about is sex.Am 15 and he is 17. Yes I know its a pretty large age gap. On msn he always says to me Shona .... would you ever do anal n am like no n he always asks me stuff like that. I mean is it normal to not want to do anal.Is he after sex or is it just me thinking tht ? Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): hey. well first off i am a year older then you an i strongly suggest that you ignore these comments from your man and not have sex with him. trust me its not gonna be worth it.people our ages shouldnt be doing things like that. i have a friend that would always have sex with her guy and guess what, now she has a kid from him and she doesnt love him anymore. i havent done it with my man and we've been together for more than a year and we'r doing just fine without it. trust me you dont want to be a teenage stereotype.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 Both... Blokes at that age are sex machines, women usually have it in early 30's and men start loosing it then, that's one reason why there are so many age gaps in relationships as you become older.
He just wants to feel good with you thats all. it's as simple as that.
I dont want to lay any pressure on you but if he will be your first then mabey it could be that your affraid, and theres nothing wrong with that. Just be honest with him and tell him the truth, tell him you want to but your not ready yet. if he respects that then he will understand.
However, It is very very very VERY hard for a guy at that age to accept that your not ready and the urge will contunue again and again and get stronger and stronger. Because if this, unfortunatley many young loves are distroyed.. This is not to say he really likes you the urge in a young man is super mind blowingly strong. and if another girl comes along playing it as though he can have it he may unfortunatley go for it. it is very tough at that age. you will need to be strong in your heart.
just be honest with him don't feel obliged. its your life and he will have to respect you.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (22 December 2008):
hun take it from me...it's because he is a guy and very hormonal. most guys in their teens and early adulthood have very high sex urges.basically all they think about is sex.
all you can do is say no if you are not ready and just make him wait. don't ever do anything unless you want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): 'Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and all he ever talks about is sex.'
BECAUSE HE WANTS SEX...?
Actually, I know what you mean. I'm the same age as you, and have alot of 17/18-year-old guy friends. Oh, and they do spend far too much talking about sex, to the point that In am often made to feel like a archetypal Nuts interviewee. Still, they know they will never be anything more, unless they learn to keep these instinctive 'urges' under control!!
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