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writes:Okay, I've made a mistake. I know that part, I just need to know how to fix it:When my boyfriend and I got together, I held out for a long time as far as doing anything sexually. Though we're not having sex yet, we do everything else. The first time I finally let him do anything to me he was so excited. After like a little while of not "cumming"(with fingering or being eaten out), I faked. I know, I know, that's like a bedroom sin or whatever. But I was scared that I never would cum, or that it would take so long that he'd think I didn't like it or that he was no good. We've matured since then in the relationship and I have no regrets about starting sexual activites when we did, that's not the problem. I need to know how I can get him to go longer on me until I can come wihtout him noticing how long it took and asking me what's different. Because now if i actually wait until i do come(if i even do, i've read that some women don't) he'll think he's doing something wrong. I'm not sure that he will, but he could. And there's like nothing worse than a man thinking he doesn't please in bed. TRUST ME, he definitely pleases. Everything is amazing, I just made that first vital mistake of faking the first time... and everytime since. Ouch. Help me please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): from a guy...Maybe I am weird, but I absolutely despise any form of dishonesty. Faking is understandable, you thought you were doing the right thing.But if it was, me and you told me you faked once because you didn't know what else to do, I would be super-attracted to your honesty. Besides, he understands that EVERYTHING takes practice if you want to become good at it.Every guy wants to feel "manly" and if a girl is lying to somehow protect him, that is a major insult.Just be truthful, communicate with each other what you want, and get in a lot of practice. He will love you more than ever and you will both become good at whatever it is you practice.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (7 June 2009):
 old guys right if you confess it wont do any good. best bet is to guide him on what does work. just tell him that you want to try new things when it comes to that to get an ultimate orgasm and that you would like to lead him to were better bits are than what he has. try and not make it sound like you faked it just try and tell him that their is more to explore and youd like to lead him through it. just assure him he hasnt done anything wrong but you would like to make the experience even better by giving your input. good luck aphex
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): So you can get there, right? And you can with him, right? So it's just a question of guiding him. Let him know what works. You don't have to confess about the past. It's all about the present. So let him know what works. And let him know what will make it *better*. If he's seriously into you, he wants to make it better. So help him do it. Communicate. No harm, no foul.
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