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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I broke up from a serious relationship back in December 2007, which left me quite broken because my ex kicked me out of the flat we shared, just after my birthday and Christmas. It took me quite a few months to get over it, especially as he pestered me for months and months to be his "friend with benefits". I felt so worthless, if he could go from telling me he loved me, to him wanting me to be his no strings sex.The next boyfriend I got with turned out to be someone with very deep issues, which wasn't aparent at first. He turned out to have a past of alcohol and drug abuse, and on one occasion he got so drunk and couln't control his anger, he pushed me and I fell. Not exactly a punch to the face, but still physical abuse nonetheless.So here I am a few months on, just feeling like I will never meet a nice guy. I'm not actively going out and looking, but it would be nice if it did happen. When I was younger, I had several really nice boyfriends, and I know they weren't the ones for me, but I just wish I could meet a nice guy now.Maybe I'm fussy, I refuse top just settle for someone who doesn't tick all my boxes. I was willing to settle with my first ex because I was scared of being "on the shelf", and I wanted to overlook some of the things that made me unhappy so I could be settled with someone.But I look around and see many of my friends who have married in a hurry, or married the first guy that came along. I see alot of unhappiness, and quite a few of them are cheating on their partners because they're not fullfilled.I'm not too sure where I am going with this, I guess I just needed to get it off my chest, it tends to get me down from time to time because I feel like I'm worth more than my ex's gave me/treated me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): First i want to congratulate you for not settling for men who arent right for you.Many women do this because they dont want to be single,but it can have horrible consequences.I too am single and sometimes wonder if ill ever find the right man.But,in a way i think the ones who wait for the right one have more of a chance of ending up happy in the long run.
When you feel down about being single,just remember what you said about your friends.They settled for second best,and look where they are.Good things come to those who wait.Im a firm believer in that.As we get older,we also get smarter about the men were dating.Which leads to some long moments where we are miserably single.But us women are strong creatures:)So ill end this by wishing you luck,from one single girl to another...may we both end up happy:)
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