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writes:I grew up with very little opportunities in life, I grew up poor and in a badly made house with no heating and no hot running water. I also have asthma, short eye sight, learning diffculty, depressing and low self estreem, so I found school very hard and I was also bullied. I never had a boyfriend not once ,never had friends, never had job, never had a car. I always failed exams, I always got rejected and end up alone. To make matters worse I am facing my 30's with nothing, but old maidship membership, dole queue.I am facing my 30's without ever having any good luck, without having a boyfriend, I didn't get even my first kiss I can forget now, guys want younger hotter girls I know who want girls 20's even though they're heading in there 30's themselves, life has passed me, I have no money, there are no jobs, a lot of time people my age have friends, jobs, social lives, boyfreinds, car, travel, I thought I could be like that but no I didn't, I grew up the opposite with nothing.I envy those people with everything and being samrt and they never make mistakes and always pass exams, they never have to repeat like me, who always every thing right, people like them and not me,I am depressed becasue I never had the opporunties like they did, I worked as hard as any of them but they are different, I grew up poor and stubborn and stupid.Now I am facing the big 30 and I am really scared of getting old and I am lost. I really loved being in my 20's, it's just not fair, I had a very hard life growing up and I will finally end up an old maid and living at home in my 30's.I feel sick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): Are you kidding me? I'm 27 and I wish I could find a girl like you!!!! A girl that hasn't got a bunch of kids and hasn't been with 50+ guys! I only wish!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): Shame on you people! Why would you make this sad woman feel worst?
I'm sick of the ''the American hero example''. When ever someone having a bad time, they push Oprah in his face.
"'Secret"" Why don't you watch the secret movie? I thought this idea failed big time, and everybody knows its a fake millionaire excuse... Or an advertising of a cult of money lover bitches.
Stop blaming innocent suffering people, jut because one fat black girl became a millionaire, it does not mean ,they all will..
Please keep love and empathy for those who suffer. And don't be deaf ,just because Oprah says so.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Have you listened to yourself? In all due respect but you sound pathetic! 30 is not old by any means! Okay so you were poorer than most? That doesn't mean you're meant to be poor or unsuccessful all your life. Your life is what YOU make it! Oprah Winfrey is a great example. Born in Mississippi to a poor teenage single mother she was later raised in an inner city Milwaukee neighborhood, she was raped at age 9 and at 14-years-old gave birth to a son, who died in infancy. Did she feel sorry for herself?????
You are young, healthy and have all your faculties about you. You can read and write (or you wouldn't be on here), you can see and you can hear! How much more rich can you be???? Instead of feeling sorry for yourself I advise you to give yourself a right good kick up the backside and start to think more POSITIVE thoughts!
Your future is in YOUR hands! YOU have a mind, your feelings come from your mind and YOU can control your feelings. In other words, YOU are in charge and nobody else. YOU determine the future. And you become what you THINK. Be careful because the universe will deliver that which you THINK!
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): First of all 30 is not old. It is very young. I believe 30 is the new 20. If you are unhappy about your life take small positive steps to change it. Your past is your past. Slowly, work out if you need to, eat well, take care of yourself and you will already feel better. Read funny books... i mean there are small steps to start changing a negative mind set into a positive one. Talk to people, your neighbours, people walking their dogs, you have to make an effort. Don't be discouraged by failure or be ashamed of who you are. Walk talk. One step at a time I believe you can get there. I am 29 and single but i am positive that in this world I will fight for what I want and I will win. Change your outlook on life. You will be amazed.... read a book called Eat, Love Pray .... You only have one life... make the most of it.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Many successfull people started life worse than you. The difference is that they didn't focus on their struggles, only on the goals and dreams they had.
Nobody wants someone who will talk about their problems, I know I don't. We all do have problems, sharing them with people is just adding up unescesary information to their lives.
People don't want to know what makes you sad, they want to know what makes you happy.
I believe that there's opportunity everywhere. People who can't see them are those who are too focused on themselves. Some people find reason why they can't do it instead of how they can do it.
You're only old when your dreams turns to regrets.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): its not fair why life turned out so rotten for me,i am really depressed turing 30 yaers old with out ever having any thing in life.i never even had a boyfriend its just sad for me its too late now.
please any help to help me cope getting old.please some advice good advice
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