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writes:It's me the insecure 1 again, but anyways ive been trippen 4 like a month now over a facebook incident with my fiance i watch over her (quite more often than i should) because im ridiculously insecure. i wish insecurity was an easy thing to get over. anyway, i hate her being on facebook just because its always a temtation while im at work but i know she needs her friends so i cant stop that, "finally" "sorry" i was rootin around in the computer and found that one day she logged on, looked up the dude she was screwing (no relationship)just before she met me, she didnt message him, but then she logged right back off??? i thought that was the extra strange part.We've been together 2 years and she says she's happy. we had a sick baby thats 4 months old. she did this like a month and a half ago. when i regretfully confronted her about it she acted shocked at first(probably cause she knows i dwell on things 4ever)then after i asked why several times and got several idk's she finally said she just looked out of curiosity like ive done b4 and other people do, but why? Just him? That day? No one else (even friends)? im slowly killing myself with extreme stress over any thing from the past with her to things like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): Chill out, dude. She probably just was thinking of him and curious to know what he was up to. It doesn't mean she wants to sleep with him or break up with you. And she didn't contact him or anything so it was harmless.
I think you need therapy because this level of insecurity is unhealthy and your controlling behaviour is very inappropriate- she's a grown woman, she doesn't need you to be checking up on her. If my man pulled anything like that I'd be gone real fast.
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