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female
age
41-50,
*bbonnas
writes:Hi there everyone!I have been with my partner for a year now. I am 28 and he is 23 ( a ickle age gap!!). He came back from afghan back end of 2009 (before I had met him). He has now quit the army and has come back to live at his parents house where he lives in an extension kind of wing of his parents house. He is self employed and works from home and lives out in the sticks. My issue is this. I have never met ONE of his friends! Everything else is perfect....but I totally miss social interaction. He speaks of friends and I know he is not completley isolated from everyone. He left many of his friends back in Afghan but still has quite a few scattered around. He had a very active social life when he lived down on the south coast and he often visits them but I have never been invited. He has been to many of my social do's but I am getting so resentful I feel like not inviting him anymore! Very childish I know but he is making no effort.So I broached the question to him and asked him why this was the case? He said I wouldnt like them. he explained they are rough and very immature. Fair enough excuse but honestly I have doubts. I dont think he is cheating, I just find this all incredibly strange and upsetting. I feel excluded.I have met his parents many times and am going on holiday with them all in a couple of weeks.Maybe I am just suffering from a bad bout of PMT and being incredibly sensitive but I really cant get my head around this one......advice needed peps!!
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 Many times guys stay casual friends with some of the guys they grew up with because they have known them for forever, but they have changed a lot over the years, and have taken different paths in their lives.
Some become alcoholics and some got into drugs and some just haven't grown up yet at all. And the person he is today would not even be friends with them if they had just met a week ago.
So some guys don't want to take their girl around them.
Maybe he is afraid they might hit on you, or embarrass him by telling you stories about him from the past, all the dumb things he used to do, or the ugly girl he went out with. Maybe he he just wants some time with the guys during these visits, and likes to crash on their sofa instead of paying for a motel room, which he would have to do if he brought you.
Who knows.... but if everything else in your relationship is fine, why worry about this? Just make new friends together with some other young couples.
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