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*omerandomnobody
writes:I split with my partner 2 years ago. I had 1 young child with her and she had a child from a previous relationship. We had been together for about 12 years!We have stayed in touch due to me seeing my son weekly, of course, and she has often had a bit of a bitter attitude towards me. This made me think she was still screwed up about all that happened. I confronted her about it two weeks ago and stated that I should be bitter and angry not her!Anyway, the other night she texted me saying - Its been 2 years! I just wanted you to know how sorry I am and still to this day hate myself for what I did to our family. I'm pleased for you that you have been able to move on as you deserve to be happy x.So, what do you people think her motivation behind this text message is!!! I dont really know how to respond (its been 3 days) as I'm still a bit raw about the whole thing TBH and miss her and the kids a lot! At the same time she crushed me!!!She's been in and out of relationships for the past 2 years, dragging the kids along with her new guy(s).So, just some general feedback on the message she sent is all I'm after, I need a different perspective. Although saying that I'm not about to jump out there and say all is forgiven lets try again - far from it TBH!!!
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (20 June 2013):
 I can only surmise that she’s been sitting at home contemplating the confrontation you had with her… and has come to realise her part in this break-up, to apologise and take ownership for it. It’s a good thing is it not?
Take it as a good sign of her (trying) to amend her previous bitter attitude towards you. Not amending to get back together, all is forgiven...
For me; I’d try not to read a motive behind this text as it would only destroy those meaningful words that I wager you needed to hear after all this time!?
If you wish to reply to her; let it be without gushy sentiment, but more in appreciation that she was able to share this with you.
Take Care – CAA
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (20 June 2013):
I'd guess she is coming to realize she may have made the wrong decision.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (20 June 2013):
 HI
I think women take longer when it comes to apologising in a situation when they know they have hurt their partners feelings, especially when it ended badly. I feel she is just trying to clear her conscience and make amends. I wouldn't read to much into it for now. If indeed you have moved on be happy with who you are with. I appreciate you miss the kids, but sometimes getting back with an ex does more harm than good when it comes down to the kids, because if it don't work out again they will be truly scared emotionally. There is nothing stopping you from staying in contact with the kids if you are both on speaking terms, just put it down to life's lessons learnt. If she texts anything like that again, just say thank you and no need to go over the past, the past is the past.
Mandy x
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 June 2013):
 Maybe what you said two weeks ago gave her food for thought? Some times we have to have things spelled out to really get it. Maybe she just didn't REALLY comprehend how bad she hurt you.
I don't think she is looking to "win" you back, but that the two of you can move on from the break up and be civil.
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