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writes: I was just wondering why ever since I told my ex I'm pregnant by him he has turned nasty, ended are friendship and completly ignores me whan I try to contact him. I dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2006): Man's opinion! :)
I agree with the others, he isn't "ready" to be a father.
Also, there might be a possibility that he blames you for getting pregnant. I know it takes two to make a baby, but I've known immature guys who have blamed the girl for getting pregnant and so direct quite a bit of anger towards them. Perhaps though they are actually blaming themselves, but are unable to accept that idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwould like mans opinion
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reader, bonym  +, writes (20 May 2006):
 My dear, from the short message you have posted, what I understand from it is that your ex clearly is not emotionally ready for a child.I think he wanted you back but he didnt bargain to get you AND a baby. I think he cant accept responsibility and he doesnt want the emotional or perhaps financial responsibility of a kid. My dear, perhaps you are better without him, but when the baby come, you must not be expected to raise the child alone, even if you are not together, he has GOT to help financially. All the best. xXx
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reader, willywombat +, writes (19 May 2006):
 He does not want to be a father. That is the long and short of it. You have given him absolutely no choice in the matter have you. Yes he should stand by his child, but right now he is angry as he is in a situation not of his WANTING. Why didn't the pair of you use some contraception? I feel so sorry for the child that will come about because of your carelessness.
Now is the time to forget about him and move on. Write him a letter and sendf it by snail mail telling him what you intend to do. Then concentrate on your pregnancy. You cannot alter his behaviour or change things now. But you can make things a lot more comfortable for yourself mentally if you accept this guy is not interested at the present time and cannot be forced into this state of *fatherhood* before he is ready.
Sorry if this sounds harsh....but this is your body, your decision now. Like I said, write the letter and give him that last chance, then move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim so shocked though because he was contacting me and wanted to see me everyday until i told him i was pregnant now he ignores me.he has changed so quick im confused
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (19 May 2006):
 He is a coward, and probably too immature to accept fatherhood. He thinks you are trapping him with a baby (I am not saying you are, but he may feel this). You cannot make him change his mind about your friendship but you should just step back and concentrate on looking after yourself. However, if you keep this baby then you should pursue him for financial support as he has a duty towards the child, regardless of whether he wants to see you or not.
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