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writes:HelloWe split over 2 months ago after 3 yrs (she left me)and there has been no contact since. Then out of the blue she emailed me to say 'hi, can we talk,would be nice to catch up etc 'I waited a 2\3 days and replied via email saying it was ok for her to call me. That was over a week ago and i've heard nothingWhy would she initiate contact and then not reply? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): I understand your pain. I have an ex who texts me once or twice a year out of the blue to wish me a Merry Christmas of just say hi. Then she goes completely dark again, not responding to my replies or phone calls. There's probably nothing you can do besides live your life assuming she is gone.
That said, if she does ever decide to stop being all spooky, and you want to be ready for anything, I suggest you read some of the articles at http://bring-back-the-love.com Just in case, since you never know.
I hope this helps.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 March 2010):
It's most likely a case that she was lonely, so contacted you out of interest, then decided it was a bad idea. In the future, don't reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): Because she wants attention?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): Um could be many things. Maybe she's really busy. Maybe she missed you at the moment. Maybe she just wanted to know if you would respond or not (in which case she got her answer), maybe she briefly broke up with her new boyfriend and contacted you but has since gotten back with him. Could be a number of things, but only one things clear. She really is not putting that much importance into you as she hasn't even bothered responding. I would not fret, keep going on with your life, DO NOT contact her again, and if she does try to reach out again don't be so quick to answer, if you even answer at all. She shouldn't take that for granted. Peace and love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): It's possible that she could be on a trip/vacation or in a situation (illness, is busy, or in a remote location) where she can't email you back. Or she may have had a moment of weakness/loneliness and thought of you, but she has since moved on. My hunch is that, if she really wanted to get back with you, she would have responded back by now.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 She was probably hoping you would be all over the email and falling over yourself to respond asap. Perhaps that you didn't has opened a new perspective for her on what she was hoping to achieve by initiating contact in the first place.
Or maybe she thinks you were kinda blase about getting back to her days later and is trying to appear that she is even less fussed about it than yourself.
I've had an ex contacting me lately, and must say I very deliberately procrastinate on responding - 1. Coz tho I am willing to be friendly again he is not getting in my good graces that easily, ... 2. Coz tho my man knows and does not object to the messaging (tho he hates this guy coz he thinks he just wants to get in my pants) it would be discourteous to his sense of security to not give the clear impression (which is actually spot on) that I am very 'whatever' about hearing from him, ... and 3. To send him a clear unspoken message that I can take it or leave it so don't think he can pick up where it left off.
Over a number of weeks he has sent fewer and further spaced messages - so I guess he has gotten the hint lol and is trying to look like he is not fussed about me either.
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