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writes:I am in a bit of a sticky situation! I am married to a wonderful lady, we have 1 child whom I adore with all my heart. Over the last few years our love life has kind of dwindled away, there is no excitement any more, I know she loves me, but I don't think that she is IN love with me any more, I always have to kiss her, she never kisses me, she never says the 3 magic words, unless I say them first! Basically. it's just like we are mates more than husband and wife.I was at a friends party the other day and a young lady made some advances towards me, she kissed me and told me she wanted more, but I told her I was married and could do no more, but since that night, I have not been able to stop thinking about her, I feel like a teenager again, I have a picture of her from the party, and every time I look at it, my heart flutters, she makes me feel like I did 15 years ago when I first met my wife.I know they say that you should'nt let your heart rule your mind, but she drives me crazy!!Please advise on what I should do next???????? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): Oops anon male, so the grass was not greener with your young lover. Is there any way to reconcile with your wife? Do u get to see your son? Was this affair worth it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): Trust me on this one buddy. I have the exact same situation that occured a year ago. I chose the path of leaving my wife for my younger fling. I thought it was love. While she does love me, now I have to deal with her immaturity, emotional baggage and a drinking problem. These girls may ignite that younger flame in you and believe me the sex will be awsome as it always is in the begining. 6 months later that will wear down and you'll be overwhelmed with guilt and wonder how you lost a good woman and your child over some girl with a nice body. These things never turn out the way you hope and learn from my mistakes...I beg you..do not pursue things with this gal. It may seem like roses now, but I promise things will be more worse than you can imagine..not just with this girl who will probably break your heart and send you into an upside down turmoil similar to losing your first love, but you will lose your child and someone else will eventually be filling in as their dad. Rekindle things with you wife. Dive into your marriage head first...be the best husband out there and find ways professionally or otherwise to bring your wife's spark back.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 April 2011):
First of all, keep your penis in your pants! This younger woman is not some fantastic angel who will suddenly ignite your fire and make life better - she's the one who'll cause you to lose your fabulous wife and child.
This is a sign that you now need to talk to your wife, and explain that you think the marriage has stalled. Tell her you want to get it back on track again, and focus your mind on her and your child. DO NOT Screw up your marriage, wife and child for some young woman who probably wanted the thrill of another woman's wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): I understand your feeling. However, you can't cheat on your wife. I know you didn't, but you have to get this women out of your head. I'm sure you love your wife very much and thats why you didn't cheat on her. So, what you need to do it talk to her about how she hasn't been giving you affection. Or do something to make her want to give you all sorts of affection. Take her somewhere nice on a weekend getaway or something. Make things exciting for you guys. Unless you really want to end it with her, which I doubt you do. Good luck.
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