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writes:My ex boyfriend has been calling and texting me for a while now. We broken up last January because he had a child with his girlfriend before we were together I was completely unaware about their child until after 2 months the baby was born. The girl and the baby are living with him at his house and he was telling friends that it's still me he loves and that he's just with the girl because of the baby. Now I want to know if I should carry on communicating with him and why is he calling me even if he is with the other girl. I'm so confused. He tells me that we can still be together in the future but when, he's not certain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): Tell him to get lost! Why are you even thinking about keeping in touch with the rat! He is obviously keeping in touch with your behind his gf's back. They have a child together, why are you even bothering to hang around. Walk away with your head held high and dont even think about going back.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (10 November 2007):
 I'll give you a guy's perspective on this.
He's already demonstrated he's not open and honest with you.
He's already demonstrated he's a cheat; he's cheating on the mother of his child with you right now.
My opinion: he's telling you stories in order to have sex with you. He won't leave his child, but he's quite happy to have some extra sex on the side. It's typical bad male behaviour and all that's going to happen is betrayal, heartbreak and pain.
This guy sounds like BAD NEWS. Forget about him, you can do much much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): Only you can really decide what you want to do, but I would recommend telling him that he needs to make a firm decision about what he's doing, and not to contact you until he does. He can be a part of his child's life, and support it, without being with the mother. If the only reason he's with her is the baby, then their relationship is doomed anyway. But you shouldn't wait for him. Be firm, and move forward. If you are what he really wants, he'll prove it.
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reader, whiteshadow +, writes (10 November 2007):
 Im sorry to put it bluntly but it sounds like hes lieing. You can still be a part of a babys life if your a dad and not have to commit to the mother. My dad and mum and loads of other people i know.. they didnt stay together even when they or me was born. Its always hard getting over an ex or going back. I think everyone has done it but when hes living with this other women n his child. It would be best for you to stay away.If you really did want him back I wouldnt take him while he was still with or living with his girlfriend. its just bad news an someone will get hurtanyways good luck
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reader, BECKAHDOTSHIM +, writes (10 November 2007):
 yh you should continue communicating with him for just a tad longer and then go from there
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