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female
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36-40,
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writes:I've got a situation where my ex-boyfriend's friend is asking me to date him. At first this friend did not about my relationship with my ex bf but since he's coming pretty strong on me.. i told him about it to avoid any kind of awkwardness. He said he's fine with it and this does not change his feelings neither towards me nor my ex bf.. with whom he's still friends. Now, my ex bf himself had casually introduced this friend and i to each other. We still talk but not so often.. He has already moved on and now he's back with his ex gf.. and in all this picture, i felt like i was the rebound girl. At first i felt really bad, i wanted him and missed him bad but now i've healed and i've let go of all those negative feelings. The issue is that this friend is a really nice guy, and he is willing to give me all the love and respect which i believe i deserve. But I catch myself thinking of ex bf at times.. of our past good times.. But then, i remember i was just the rebound girl.. At first i thought i wouldnt jump into another relationship so soon, chin up, i'd take some time for myself to be alone.. this experience/break up pain has kinda been a spiritual refinement for me. But it's hard to remain insensitive to all the attention and respect that this friend wants to give me. And he is really into me. I don't know what to do .. He is so such a nice guy that i don't want to hurt him in any way because I feel I can't give all of me right now coz i'm still scared that i might end up hurt again. As for ex bf, I believe this would not bother him since he has moved on. Anyone else has been in this situation? What should i do?
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reader, Leodjoneluv  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 be careful about dating ex's friends. that could be messy. I would not ever do it but i have know so people that have. Look at Maury. most of those situations turn out sour. Find some one new and start a new chapter in your life.
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