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writes:my x boyfriend keeps asking me to have sex with him i dont wont to but he wont stop going on he keeps saying he still loves me n i have feelings 4 him 2 i have had sex before but i dont feel comfatable with himxxemilyxx Reply to this Question
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reader, bonym +, writes (19 June 2006):
 Willywombat took the words right out of my mouth!!! And I totally agree with Shania's sound advice. Dont even think about doing something that you are not comfortable with. Please dont. xXx
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reader, willywombat +, writes (19 June 2006):
 If you don't feel comfortable with him do I have to spell it out.....DO NOT DO IT!! It is your body, your life.
jeez.....
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (19 June 2006):
 You say you dont feel comfortable with him, but you have had sex before ? Have you had sex with him before ?
If you really dont feel comfortable then dont do it. He is only saying he loves you so that you will have sex with him. have some self worth and tell him no. You dont want to be used by him, and if you really dont feel comfortable with someone then the last thing you want to do is have sex with them. Tell him to leave you alone and go pester someone else. If your not a couple and you dont want sex with him tell him to get the hell out of your space or you will report him for harrasment. Its not nice someone badgering you for sex, for one ends, not that he wants to be with you, but just to get his way... tell him to get lost hun, your worth more than that, let the creep know you wont stand for it.
Take care x
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reader, Yos  +, writes (19 June 2006):
 If you don't feel comfortable with him don't do it. You should feel under no obligation at all to him! The fact that he is trying to persuade you to have sex shows he doesn't respect you, and that you made the right decision to leave him.
Tell him to go masturbate, or to find someone else (or both). Show him that you have respect for yourself and don't let him pressure you into sex. You are not on this Earth just so your ex boyfriend can relieve himself when he feels horny.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): Why not? Sure, he's your ex, but if you two want it, then go for it.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (18 June 2006):
 You don't have to have sex with anyone you don't want to, especially an ex. He's obiviously using the feelings you have for him to get what he wants. He's just horny and needs a f*** buddy. If he really had feelings for you he wouldn't of ask that of you.
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reader, lostinlove +, writes (18 June 2006):
I have to agree with shania, although if you want him back then you could say that you wont have sex unless hes willing to have the full commitment of a proper realtionship if he says no then no loss, if he says yes then there you go. Its totally up to you hun dont let him force you to do anything. good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): If you dont feel comfortable then dont do it! Tell him if he wants sex with you then it is part of a package deal with a full on relationship. You're not just there for his convenience when he's horny. Have some self respect...you dont want to be his doormat shag for life.
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reader, shania +, writes (18 June 2006):
 If he is your ex boyfriend then why in the hell is he still wanting sex with you?...You dont have to have sex with him if you dont want to...its your body.Let me guess...did he finish with you? but still wanted sex with no strings attached? In future when he asks again,you tell him NO...and you mean it...you said you are not comfortable with it so dont do it,no man should force you to do anything.This fella is using you,full stop...if he begs again,tell him to use the hole in the tree! The guy's a creep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): Stop right there!!!!!!!!!!
DO NOT even think about getting back into bed with him, it is all he wants you for!!!!
Trust me hun, i have been in exactly the same situation. Please think before you do anything you might regret
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