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writes:Ok I have not spoken to my ex boyfriend in almost four years mainly because we had an ugly break up and he was kind of an asshole towards me after we broke up (rubbing his new gf in my face, calling me names) . It was to the point I couldn't take it anymore so I ended up deleting him off of social media. Over the years I eventually moved on and I have been happily dating my current boyfriend for almost 3 years and I have been hearing through the grapevine (mutual friends) that he had moved on as well which is fine. Now today out of nowhere he sent me a friend request on Facebook which I thought was very weird because after four years I doubt we have anything to talk about. What is my ex boyfriends intentions?
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reader, lifesgreat  +, writes (23 August 2014):
I would say testing the waters .
Maybe he has had guilt come over him and just wants to feel that he wasn't a total ass to you.
But I wouldn't count is anything special , if you want to add him then add him but don't think too in depth about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2014): He's testing the waters. It's a small world. You're likely to run into each other; and he wants to know what to expect.
You say you hear things through the grapevine. Which I would guess means you have mutual friends or acquaintances; and/or still live in the same town.
His intentions are to offer you an olive branch; because he knows he was an asshole.
Do you still go to your old hangouts? Running into someone you know hates you, can be pretty awkward. It kind of restricts you from hanging out where you know you'll see them.
It's a real bummer.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 August 2014):
 Only way to find out is to ask him.. IF you actually CARE what he thinks and why he s doing what he is doing.
Personally, given your history, I'd ignore the request and keep him out of your life.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (23 August 2014):
 Possibly wants to rekindle an old flame? And yet another great reason to stay off of facebook!The hits just keep on coming.
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