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anonymous
writes:Hi. I recently moved in a new house.me and my boyfriend have broken up recently.Few weeks after I noticed that one of the guys I leave with started flirting with me and recently asked me to watch a movie with him at his room. We made out and it was almost leading to sex. But I was really shy and stressed so he stopped. This thing happened two more times. The third one had a fore play. I thought we were gonna have sex. Suddenly after that he started slowing down and then he got up and said it was too late and we had to go and sleep cause we both had to wake up early. I was like wtf! I was shy could this possibly turned him off.? I was thinking what was wrong. In the end we felt asleep and he was still holding my hand or hagging me or stroking my back..and staff. There are so many mixed signals. I don't know why he stopped it is just so strange.he also has an exam soon and he is really stressed.but I don't think this has to do with that.any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2014): Hi thanks for your advice. I'm just getting really confused.because after that night he acts really friendly with me but he was talking to me about a girl he met. I am noybgiing to bother with him anymore. I really can't understand what he wants.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 August 2014):
 Yep, to everything WiseOwlE wrote.
And consider dating/sleeping with a roommate isn't always a very bright idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2014): Careful! Your feelings are on the rebound and you're searching for comfort.
Why did he stop? Because you were nervous, fidgety, and the fact he knows you're vulnerable, and searching for a fill-in for your boyfriend. He's not sending mixed signals, you are. He can't take a chance, there is no room for error.
You'll seem submissive to sex at the beginning; and could say "no" at the last minute. That's a precarious position for a male to be in with a female. It's harder to stop once started; or figuring-out how far was too far?
Do yourself a favor. Give yourself a little more time away from sexual encounters. Your mind needs time to adjust to breaking-up. Next-day remorse feels awkward, the guilt is unbearable, and you can't turn back the clock.
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