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writes:My bf and I broke up and I've been NC for 2 weeks. He's 34 and I'm 30. I broke it off with him after 2.5 years together because I felt like he wasn't giving me enough attention and because he had to go away for work in another state and after being told it was only 2 weeks, he still hasn't returned and didn't really know when he'd be coming back. I felt like neither of us were really happy anymore so I cut him loose. Since the breakup I've changed my cell number and blocked/deleted him from facebook/xbox. Anyway, after 2 weeks of NC he sends me a message on xbox last night, with a different gamertag, saying something rather smartassed about how I suck at playing a certain game. Now, this is how he talks to everybody and just speaks before he thinks sometimes. He isn't the sweetest person 'cause he wasn't raised that way. Other than joining my game twice in the last 2 weeks he's made no effort at contacting me. Usually, we'd breakup for a few days and I'd come back to him. This time I've been standing strong. My question is what are his possible reasons for messaging me last night? I know it proves he's been checking up on me which shows he still cares but I don't really get it. He has a new gamertag he's had for a week now and could've easily stayed away and not said anything. It wasn't anything about getting back together and it wasn't a real conversation starter. So I'm a little confused.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 March 2013):
 You changed your cellphone number but not your gamertag? It seems you didn't go far enough. If you are bothered by his breaking the NC rule, go all the way and remove all links to yourself. That would make it really clear that you do not want any contact from him whatsoever.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 March 2013):
 Don't be confused. Block the new gamertag name and keep moving forward.
WHY someone does something does not matter unless you are playing games and want him back and went NC to show him the error of his ways and make him miss you and want you back.
Since you are standing strong and don't want him back, why he does something should not matter.
block all new names and move on.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (5 March 2013):
"No contact" means not paying attention to any contact from the other person. Why he contacted you is irrelevant if you truly want to be done with him.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 March 2013):
 Why would you care about what his reasons are? Do you want to get back together? Did you break up with him to teach him a lesson or something?
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