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writes:Ok- so my ex and i have been broken up for about 9 months. In these 9 months, (and up til about 3 weeks ago) he's done a lot to get back with me, but i was really not ready. I feel like now i am ready andi want to give it anothet try. He is hanging out with (not dating) someone else that he was friends with. and a bunch of them (including her) are going away this weekend. I spoke to him the other day and told him i wanted to try to work on things- like start hanging out again and see where it goes. He's all confused now and doesn't know what to, but i'm thinking it's probably because he's already had these plans to go away for a long time now. i understand that he's confused and doesn't know what to do, because while i knew i wanted to try and work on things, it kind of came out of the blue to him. I'm not willing to just let him go without a fight. We're supposed to talk when he comes back from vacation. My question is what can i do to make him see what he's seen for the past 8 months and 1 week (bc he's been trying to get back with me up until 3 weeks ago)? Do you think he still ahs the feelings, but obviously can't just cancel his trip? i'm confused and i don't know what to do-i really want to give us another try.*oh and we were together for 2 years and have known each other for about 5 years
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reader, islesfan1226 +, writes (23 June 2011):
islesfan1226 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnooooo- i'm not trying to get him to cancel his trip at all! I think i may have worded it wrong. I'm saying i know he's going on the trip (which is 100 % fine- i would never expect him to cancel it, that would be so selfish lol) i'm saying do you think the reason he's acting weird is BECAUSE he's going away and theres obviously nothing he can do about it until he comes back
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Were you hoping he would drop his plans and try to work things out with you?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Yes I do believe that he still has those feelings. But he has tried for so long now that he has probably given up and now when he has stopped trying you come to him which is going to leave him extremely confused, and really can you blame him. I understand that he has had these plans to go away for a while so why not meet him in the middle and tell him to go on his trip and enjoy himself and that you can both meet up to talk once his head is a bit clearer and maybe you can both work things from there after he goes away. But honestly there is nothing you can say or do to make him realise that he wants to be with you he needs to figure it out for himself what he wants. Hopefully for your sake you haven't missed your chance with him and left it to late. Good Luck.
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