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writes:OK, brief story…at 30 years old, I met my first real love. He moves around a lot for his job, so he admitted to me that he had never been “in love” before either. He had, had his heart broken at a young age, and always shied away from real relationships, despite number upon numerous hook-ups and friends with benefits. I mean this guy was experienced!!! I however, was not. I had only been with 2 men before, I met my “Mr. Big”……Mr.Big and I, had been friends for several years, before we dated. We worked in the same industry so a lot of mutual contacts. He broke things off with me, saying he wasn’t ready for anything this real ect…I know now, that is a major RED flag. He jumped into a rebound pretty quick, the WHOLE time he was with this other girl, he and his friends were in a way harassing me, it was like he never got over me, and they would say mean things about me. I never let it get to me; I only prayed and prayed for him. Finally one day, once his relationship had fizzled out, the praying worked. He apologized and told me how sorry he was for everything. We became friends. Him in one city 4 hours away from me, so pretty innocent. This made me happy because I still love/loved him very much. Kind of like the real “Mr. Big”. Anyway, a couple of months ago we were texting and he says “I don’t think we should text anymore. I’m trying to date someone new, and it’s time for me to let go of you.”…..I said sure, and I proceeded to write a long drawn out good bye text message. ( of course he didn’t respond) I TOOK his number out of my phone. Then not even a month later, I get a random text from him out of nowhere. (I do have his number memorized) I was confused, and didn’t want to answer, but the next day I did!!! It’s just all so confusing, like if he doesn’t want me to talk to him, then WHY did he initiate contact again?? Anyway, I thought things were fine, until one day two weeks ago I noticed he BLOCKED me on Face book. No warning, no nothing…just BOOM. It hurts. He hasn’t blocked me from texting him yet, I tested that. And when I do text he is brief then ignores me. It’s just like why can’t he tell me the truth??? If he doesn’t want contact, than why didn’t he say so when I texted him recently. I will NOT let him know that I realized he blocked me. It’s just driving me nuts wondering….and I never stalked his profile before, but now I want to. Now that I can’t see it… Ughh Please help. Why the sudden block?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 July 2014):
 I agree with Auntie Cindy (again) He likes to toy with you. He KNOWS that he he whistles you come running. It IS about control and manipulation. He knows which buttons to push and when he is bored, he pushes yours.
Come on. Mr. Big was a douchewad. Good looking, rich and occasionally nice, but he was absolutely SELFISH and EGOTISTIC.
BLOCK him on EVERYTHING and MOVE on. HE isn't worth pining after. Find yourself a guy who wants YOU for you, not just when he isn't getting someone else...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 July 2014):
 Control. He does not want you to talk to him, but he wants to be able to talk to you if so it strikes his fancy of doing ( who knows, maybe the day that all these exes are busy ... or get fed up of his airs and graces as you should too).
He does not want you around, even remotely, and does not want you to know what's going on in his life- but it's also nice to know that you've always got a plan B, or C ( well sorry but in your case it sounds more like you'd be plan V, or W ).
Just block HIM on turn and devote your energies to some other worthier object of love and desire.
P.S: IMO Mr. Big is just a pompous, presumptous ass anyway, don't you remember that Carrie gets caught because Mr. Big had called her over to have sex... in his wife Natasha's house and BED ? how do you call a guy like that, who with all his money can't even have the decency to RENT somewhere else than his wife's bedlinen to carry on hus trysts ?... I always thought that if Carrie actually LIKES that guy, she is actually not even one tenth as smart and savvy as the authors wants to sell her to us. But luckily... it's just TV. In real life, intelligent women are way more disctiminating, ... aren't they, OP ?:)
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reader, CutiepieinTX +, writes (11 July 2014):
CutiepieinTX is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for that answer, and I guess I should have included that, he most definitely does NOT have any type of girlfriend, as he still texts my friends. He also is literally Facebook friends with every girl he has ever dated, including the one he lived with before me. Is he a jerk? Yes!!! But deep down inside he can be a loving soul with a big heart
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 July 2014):
 Why the sudden block? He has a girlfriend and he doesn't want to explain his exes to her.
Take it as a blessing, be thankful and cut contact.
Think of him as Mr. No Big Deal. ;)
(P.S. He sounds like an annoying and selfish guy -- ok I think he's a jerk -- why do you need that in your life now? Life is too short to waste it on the jerkish....)
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