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writes: Me and my ex have been separated for two years, he contacted me a year after I didn't want to know, a year later I added him on Facebook. He said he was happy to hear for me and doesn't want to break contact again, then endlessly apologised for his behaviour in the months before we split. (He was an ass at times) been in contact for two months and has said he would like to see me , meet me I was this wonderful girl he let go of, says he wants to see me. Problem is new lives in London, I live in leicester. E both work full time. Says I'm wonderful beautiful. He can't wait to see me, my family as we were together for three years. He will message me everyday and if I don't hear from him during the day he will Text me when he's going bed to say 'I'm in bed what you up to' I wonder how sincere he is, are their any signs to determine whether he means any of this or not?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 September 2013):
 He MAY mean it. but if he has not changed it will be the same old thing all over again...
if you want to know if he has changed... let him woo you like you were a brand new girl and he a brand new guy... because in order for you to consider going back to him he'd have to have changed...
therefore if you are willing to give it a go and see if he's changed and matured... do so but carefully..
and no three strikes and you are out... he gets ONE chance to screw up and if he does.. I'd cut him off and block him forever...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 September 2013):
 This classic guy-behaviour is meticulously described in the "Book of Guyism".... in a chapter titled: "OK, so you screwed up and she dumped you.... but that doesn't have to mean that you can't try a new, sincere-sounding opener with the possibility that she will cave for you, and you can get her back in to bed yet again."
P.S. The title of that chapter is ALL that's in it!
Good luck.
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reader, R1  +, writes (9 September 2013):
 I agree with the other poster about the nostalgic thing. I've known lots of friends look up exes and fantasise that things will be different this time... I can't think of a time when it has worked out but that doesn't mean it is impossible.
You are obviously keen though or you wouldn't be speaking to him everyday and I'm assuming you want to meet him regardless of what anyone on here says! So the best advice is just to go in with no expectations, consider the possibility of just being friends and keep your eyes wide open...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2013): People often feel nostalgic and look-up old flames and friends on Facebook. There are always good feelings when we walk down memory lane.
He was the one who was kind of an ass. You both won't quite have identical recollections of the relationship.
Of course you'll spark fonder memories for him. Don't get caught up in all this. He sounds like a charmer. My advice is to keep it cool and distant. It took time to get over him. Don't set yourself up for a relapse.
The feelings may quickly subside once he is able to reconnect with you in-person. He has fantasized this big reunion, and sometimes that could trigger buried resentment.
The idealistic romantic-version of the reunion is often better than reality.
Don't expect feelings to be the same for either of you, after two long years. There is no way to tell if he's sincere, and you didn't say whether you plan on taking him back. If not, sincerity is irrelevant. It's just a friendly meeting of two exes.
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