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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for about half a year now, and he says that he has serious plans to marry me. I am an ex-escort, and he used to be my client. I stopped working when we started dating, but before that, we became close friends. Subsequently, he started knowing about my rocky past because I'm a very open person. Whenever we have a fight, he always focuses on my past. He yells "you like sucking other people's cock?!" and other hurtful phrases. One thing he ALWAYS retorts is "WHat is left for me?" ... does that make sense? Is he right to quantify sexual relationships in comparison to love? Everytime we fight, I am very hurt. After his anger has passed...he tells me not to talk about the fight anymore..and becomes pissed again if I try to sit down and talk about it. I need some serious advice! I feel like every time he blames my past...I'm being framed? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): Some men can handle being romatically-involved with a woman who is/was an escort. Others can't. Clearly your boyfriend canNOT handle it. Perhaps one day he'll grow up and be more accepting. But if every time you get into an argument he's going to bring up your past, I truly wonder if he loves you or loves the idea of being with you. (some guys do get off on the idea that they were the ones who were able to take an escort out of "the business".)
But my advice is this man is not going to change and you need to move on for your own well-being. There is a man out there for you, one who will NOT hold your past against you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 January 2010):
Please get rid of him. If his answer to every argument is going to be insult you about your past, then he's not worth any more time. Truly, he isn't. There are plenty of other women who have pasts, plenty of men who have had pasts. And for him to have actually been an ex client takes the piss. Get rid of him, you can do better.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Hun, your bf has serious issues with your past which sounds like he is NEVER going to forget and he will never trust you, eventhough you are faithful to him.
Unless he can come to terms with your past [we all have things in our past] and move forward from there, your relationship will not grow and the issue will remain unresolved.
You cannot change the past so either he accepts that you had a life before him or you need to move on with your life.
Honeygirl
Could you imagine being married to this man in 10 yrs time and still fighting about your past??
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