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writes:Last night my gf broke up with me. Our relationship lasted about 5 years, we had our good and bad times. About 4 months ago, she started talking to another guy and long story short ended up cheating on me. I found this out recently about 3 weeks ago, even though i knew what she has done i forgave her, however this past couple of weeks, every time we are together and that other guy calls her or msg her, she feels obligated to call him back. They will even spend nights talking on the phone. I really don't know what to do. I really thought this was the girl i was going to marry and spend the rest of my life with. Is there any hope she can come back to me?? Please help!! I have terrible nights were i can't sleep and days that i cannot eat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): This morning she called me and we talked for about 2 hours telling me how she dreamed about me last night..she said she loves me very much and that she will come back to me but allow her some time today with the other guy to finish things up..i let her and lets just say that they did not come back..i tried calling her but she wouldn't pick up. she then texted me that she needed more time. i just found out that they were on a date, i ask her why and she said, i don't know, she wants to know whats between them . I'm so sick of it..
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (6 May 2007):
 Why did she break up with you? Did you both have a big argument about this other guy? You need to let he know that you feel very uncomfortable with this situation. Ask her how SHE would feel if the shoe were on the other foot! I bet she wouldn't like it. If she loves you at all then she wouldn't be interested in this other guy, platonic or not! All she's doing is making you distrust her more not to mention making you feel insecure.
You have already fallen out about this and she has dumped you. My advice to you is to leave it for now, if she misses you then she'll get back in touch with you but have respect for yourself and don't YOU be the first one to call her, (she's probably expecting that). Stand firm and see if she gets in touch. If she doesn't then I would forget her and move on. Easier said than done I know but in the circumstances it's definitely for the best. As long as she is texting and calling this other guy then there is every chance of her cheating on you again, no matter what excuses she gives you.
Let me know how it goes and if you need to talk some more, don't hesitate to get in touch.
Eve
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