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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Help! About a year ago I found out that my husband had numerous accounts online -- from dating sites to webcam sites. He had pictures of himself on some of these sites in his profile. I have caught him several times searching yahoo personals. He doesnt seem to understand how this hurts me and I feel like he is/has cheated on me. He has set up a few different email accounts. The last one I found on his cell phone and he was planning on texting with other women.Since I have uncovered all of the info, he swears he will never do this again. He has looked into my eyes and told me this before so I have a hard time believing him. I have blocked our home computers for him or anyone else to go to such sites again.I have been trying to move foward and seem stuck, I honestly dont know how to trust him again. Everytime he leaves the house for work, I always wonder what he's really up to. Please help!
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reader, Ne'cee +, writes (4 June 2010):
 I can relate. Once you have been betrayed. Its hard to trust again. If you block it, it only makes him want to do it more. He feels a excitment from trying to hide it. Put the ball in his court. Explain to him that what he is showing you is that this is ok to do in the relationship. So tell him if its ok for him that you will start exploring too. Doesnt mean you really have to. But if he is wondering if you are doing it, he most likely wont. Then he will know how you feel. Maybe you should sign up for one and "accidently" leave it up for him to see. Thats the only way he may know how you truly feel. But be careful, I dont know what kind of man he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): Hello,
I can certainly see why you're suspicious he's given you reason to be. Did he every mention why he felt the need to be on dating sites? That's very disrespectful to you.
If he hasn't cheated, its seems like he's certainly trying to hook up with someone. If he can't be trusted, or loyal to you. I don't see the point of continuing this relationship. Unless he can change and mean what he says.
Good luck
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