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writes:How do you handle it when everything seems to go wrong and you are under so much stress?I don't want to get into too much detail but over the past few months I have gone through a whole lot. My parents have never been there for me and don't want anything to do with me. My father has anger problems and yells at me all of the time and says really hurtful things. My mother has problems too and she isn't someone I can count on either. I also don't really have any other family, and only a couple of friends.My long term boyfriend cheated on me and did some other really hurtful things to me so we broke up, my work has become so stressful and my co-workers are all turning on each other and being mean, and a bunch of other stuff has been going on.Hope I don't sound like a drama queen...but lately I can't seem to handle this anymore, I've been under so much stress and have become depressed. Does anyone have any advice? thanks.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 December 2013):
 "I have become depressed"
I'm sorry to hear that
"does anyone have any advice"
yes you need to become "undepressed" now how to do that.
Step one.... understand that depression can be caused by situations (hence the name situational depression)... the TREATMENT of situational depression is the same as for neurobiochemical depression... YOU NEED anti-depressants and coping skills and support.
to that end this is what I suggest.
a visit to your general doctor who if comfortable with it may prescribe an anti-depressant for you. IF NOT, they can and should refer you to a professional that can prescribe appropriate anti-depressants. but then that's just step one.
step two is to find a therapist who can guide you to finding good self-coping techniques since it appears your family is not going to be helpful there.
If you had a broken leg you would see the doctor to get it fixed wouldn't you?
IF you had diabetes you would take insulin...
if you needed glasses you would wear them.
well mental health is the same thing... you need help and treatment... do not go this alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2013): Oo sweetie your post really touched me.. My parents are both now gone, and though they were to me the best thing since sliced bread ( I do know they had flaws too) I don't think your father should be shouting at you no matter your age.. That isn't right .. And maybe your mother has her own worries that make her how she is ., but that doesn't excuse either of them for not supporting you .. Children need their parents no matter their age and I'm sad at the fact you are grieving at the minute really for parents who are still alive and I think that makes it even harder .,You must, be kind to yourself .. You must muster up the courage that we know you have and go out and find support from other branches of life ..Make new friends start a new hobby .. Take up some sort of exercise regime . Exercise release hormones that boost us .. Take St. John's wort and go and see your doctor for a chat ., you need support and until you can get it ..you need to support yourself . Also we are here a friendly ear to listen whenever you need sweetie . Take care and keep us posted
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (1 December 2013):
No matter how bad you think it is there's always someone much worse off.Think of all those poor people in the Philippines after that massive typhoon,they were poor before but have nothing now and they say it'll take 10 years to get back to what it was before but they still crack a smile at all foreigners.My problems are nothing compared to theirs.Try and be positive as much as you can.My wife always tells me "my glass is always half empty" and her's is" always half full" and she's absolutely right,nothing gets her down.
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