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26-29,
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writes:Okay but everyone thinks I'm weird. I'm not too extroverted but I'm pretty much a sociable person. And whenever I socialize with people, they always seem really pathetic and always bringing up useless topics and chatters a lot. Every time I meet new people (specially girls) ,they think I'm an aloof and distant when I'm not, however I might appear like so because their topics are only about guys and things that makes no sense. Although, I make good friends with guys but not all of them, but I feel that they understand me more than girls do. I have a girl best friend but she sometimes thinks that I'm really insensitive and distant, I actually tend to listen more than I do speak, she is a really talkative person and is always complaining and very clingy, I always tell her that I need my own space, but she still calls me all the time and wants to text me 24/7 and is basically a copycat and I hate it, I mean she wants to wear the same way i do, she wants to have the hobbies I have, she wants to work the same place as I do, she orders the same food as I do order, she used to say that she hated to smoke and she hated unhealthy food, now when I started to smoke she also started to smoke and when I eat unhealthy she also eats unhealthy, she even wanted to but the same dress I bought, I mean it's very annoying, and I hate telling her that she's like so because I don't want to hurt her. Or am I just going crazy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2016): You are perfectly ok and well you know it!You have a job and friends!I think you are a wonderful person but you get annoyed with your friends when they are busy chatting breeze!Of course you need your own space.There probably is a strong element of creative energy in you!No doubt the friend who emulates you thinks you know all there is to know about fashion, hairdo's ,movies and make up!Perhaps you have extraordinary good taste or are paticularly good at matching tones and fabrics.You could tell this friend youre planning on wearing your blu outfit or something she has a copy of on a certain day and if she wears exactly that outfit you could say 'oh you really are clothes stalking me then!"Having things to talk about other than guys is a very good thing!I know some girls can talk for hours about nail varnish and if josh wears underpants or boxers!If they talk exclusively about guys you don't know then they just expect you to sit back and !isten and laugh at the silly jokes about how josh got his undies caught in the loo seat last week and ripped them and got out of the locked portaloo looking like the incredibly bored hulk!If your friends are going to be in this phase for a long time you might as well learn to play guitar so that you can sit and strum to while away the boredom!Eventually you will get good at it and perhaps the josh guy will turn up and be into music and go 'Oh wow, show me how you play A minor chord and change to E minor..i always liked those chords and my fingers aren't long/strong enough to do them smoothly!Then noticing how nice you smell and how good you play guitar he might suggest you make a band and entertain others with your music!If only there really were a josh who could play drums then it could be the start of something really special. now am i mad or crazy or is it just something about the way i said it?
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reader, llifton  +, writes (13 August 2016):
 I'm a bit confused. Is your question about making friends in general, or is it about your friend annoying you? If you could clarify a bit, I could respond more articulately.
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