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writes: Hello,!A month ago my boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up with me and my heart is breaking as i love him dearly. i am 21 and he 22. we have known each other for about 5 years through work, and have spent almost every night together for tha past two years. I cant bare to be without him and miss him EVERY second of the day, the only time i am happy is when he is on phone or sending text messages to me on hims phone. We are still in regular contact. He says he still loves me, but we still cant be together but I have not been given a proper reason for this. I have been stressed with exams lately and finishing uni, so have been looking for a job too. I have not been the best girlfriend, but i have told him that this time apart has made me learn that my bossy ways and insecurities have been uncalled for and that i really really could be the best girlfriend he could ever have, as i love him and would do anything for him. We are meeting tonight as 'friends' but im my head i am thinking that if i can build up our friendship i can make him remember why he fell in love with me in the first place. everyones advice is to stop contact to allow myself to get over him... but i cant do this. if he really didnt still have feelings for me, surely he wouldnt want to meet at all?
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reader, Kierra48 +, writes (29 June 2006):
The same thing happened to my boyfriend and I.We broke up and we still claimed we loved each other.We are back together now.So believe me when I say this.The more time you spend with him and the more you talk to him,the more he will realize how much you mean to him and you will get back together soon enough!Tell him you love him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): Okay, you said you were friends for 5 years and dated for 2? It sounds like to me that he may have liked the relationship you had as friends than a couple. Alot of times people get together after knowing each other for years only to find out that it's too weird because they can't truly be themselves. Not saying that is everyone but, majority rules. There are just things you can't say or do around a girlfriend that you would a friend. It also doesn't leave much mystery to the pot. Even though you feel hurt right now it's understandable. Give it time don't force it. It didn't take overnight to grow love for each other. Take care of you and your priorities. If it's meant to be you will meet up again. Just give him time if you appear emotionally dependent on him for your happiness, you'll push him away, lose sight of yourself and not only will he lose respect for you, you'll regret the impact your decision made on your life.
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reader, Seratuki  +, writes (27 June 2006):
 Well...
I can tell you from personal experience, if you really feel you love him and you've just got some trivial problems, then don't give up!
My fiancee moved out on me, brought the cops and his parents to my house to get his stuff and tell me he's leaving! but you know what? I knew how I felt about him, and noone was going o tell me otherwise! :) I started back as friends with him, and he eventually moved back in with me.
We've been together a year since this happened! :) so my advice is, don't give up yet!
HTH
Sera-Tuki
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (27 June 2006):
 Shame angel, my heart breaks for you cause i to have loved so unconditionally and had my heart broken. and it's easier for people to say just don't see him, when it kills you to be away from them. But what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Men are different to us women, we break up with men because we stop loving in that way, men almost never have a reason to give. and thats what makes it worse is not knowing why. but the problem may not be because of you but maybe he just needs time! or he may be seeing someone else and he just doesn't know how to tell.
So the best suggestion is try to ween yourself of of him.
Speak to him but not as often! see him, but don't go alone! eventually it will become easier on you. He may decide he is ready to get back with you or he may be ready to tell you the reason why he broke it of. don't push him or send him on guilt trips, make sure to tell your self that he llost you, he gave up on the one person who loved him more than life. if he can't see that you would do anything for him then he is not worth it.
no man is worth your tears and the one that is, will never make you cry.
Hope it helps, let me know
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): HiyaSorry but I'm not here to give you an answer but just letting you know that you're not alone at the moment. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years finished me on friday for absolutely no reason at all, he just said that he didnt feel the same about me anymore. I am completely gutted and would do ANYthing to get him bak. like you, iv been doing exams so not been spending alot of time with him at the moment but I cant think of anything i've done wrong. ive spoken to him and text him and he talks to me as if we were stil together. really dont know what to do. just so so gutted.
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