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writes:Okay, So my ex, of about 5 months, broke up with me about 2 months ago. The reason why we broke up is because i had lost my job and i thought about getting a "sugar daddy", and i found one, but just exchanged emails and i chickened out. So i did NOT cheat on him. He tells me that he was happy that i didn't go all the way through with it, but he was worried about trusting me and it will be a while before i have to worry about him looking or wanting another girl, but there has been this girl(she is kinda fat, smokes and is isnt really his type, fyi) who has been at his house for almost a week, she goes over when he gets off work, and leaves when he goes to work. He tells me he cares about me and will always love me(i was his first true love), but i have begged him to get back with me at least once a week since we broke up, i have a couple of items such as a dresser and a box over there due to me living with him, so every time i go over there to get something, i get nervous and shaky and i don't tell him what i mean to tell him such as feelings, i tell him i think its best if we stop talking, but when i get back to where i'm staying i tell myself im stupid for saying that because i love him to death, i even thought about suicide a couple of times because he didn't want me. My question is, What do i do? How do i get over him, and should i talk to him? I wrote him a 4 page letter, should i give it to him?
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (26 August 2008):
Give him the letter if you are still interested in him. If not stay away from him, take away everything you own, from his house in one day and never see him again. Be strong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Hi,
I think that you do need to improve your own confidence and possibly independence. You sound insecure and the attempt at pretending to search for a sugar daddy is possibly you trying to gain some control over the situation. I wouldn't give him the letter. I would perhaps tell him how you feel about him, but tell him that this situation is not good for you and that you need to distance yourself from it until such time as you feel better able to cope or move on, or in the eventuality that he will make some kind of commitment to you. Now a financial or material one, but one of the heart.
Beggy him makes you appear needy and not attractive. Do you own thing and get some more self respect. Keep busy; perhaps a new interest or hobby and keep yourself fit.
Best wishes x
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