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*iisscaroline
writes:my boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for 3 years.. We had a baby boy together who is now a year old. I have gained some weight due to pregnancy and I'm fighting to get it off. When I was about 6 months pregnant, he said he didn't want to have sex with me because he didn't want to hurt the baby. I had to wait over 4 months to get ANY type of sexual attention from him. We recently broke up for a few months and since being back together for the past two months, we've only had sex a total of three times. When I ask him how I look before we go out he looks at me, puts this horribly disgusted look on his face that makes me feel like I wanna die then he says you look good. Everytime I try to get close to him he always pushes me away. He doesn't care one bit about satisfying me in any way. And when we do have sex, iits the worst sex ever and I don't even get off. I feel so unwanted. I couldn't tell you if he even wants me here. He screams at me and says what are you fucking stupid of course I fucking want you here. God you are so ridiculous. Everytime, never fails. So should I pack my stuff and say see ya later, thanks for putting in so much effort to make us work.. Or....
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reader, miisscaroline +, writes (29 September 2010):
miisscaroline is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks! I am most definitely not scared to leave. What we are doing now is kind of like a trial run to see if we can make things work. Obviously not. I will leave this relationship head held high and knowing I can do it myself. I'd rather be alone and lonely then be with someone and lonely. I know for a fact that there is a guy out there who will treat me right, but I have to get myself right first.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 It's a hard situation, but he might need some space. What I mean by that is, you could suggest a trial separation.
If he doesn't really like you anymore, you should leave and put this terrible chapter of your life behind you.
He sounds like me. Shallow and selfish. Both of you might be better off going your separate ways. You're still young so you can always start again somewhere else.
Sounds like it's time to make a change. I guess you also have to do what you think is right at the time...and think objectively. Take the emotion out of the situation and just leave him.
Tell him that he can see the baby boy once a week for three hours. Talk to a Lawyer about it. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): Too right, you should!
I wouldn't let anyone look at me like that let alone speak to me like that. He is not worth your emotions. Don't be scared of being on your own, it's hard a little at first but you'll be proud of yourself and so much better off.
Good luck
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 I wouldn't stand for what you're describing. It is time to walk away. Neither of you are happy and that will just get worse with time. If he were willing to try and work things out, that would be one thing, but it doesn't sound like that's the case here.
If you leave, do not get back together with him. I repeat, DO NOT get back together with him. It will end the same way.
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