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writes:I've got depression, dropped out of uni due to it and am stuck back at home again with an abusive family due to financial reasons.I have no friends but I did meet a guy through temp work, who's older, in his thirties. He was bullying and rude the first time we met TBH, but I spoke to my other manager about it and then we became friends because he was nicer. He keeps flirting with me obviously which I guess is inappropriate but not OTT, and I didn't flirt back but completely fell for him. I learned he had a fiancee but I still have a thing for him.I'm not even sure if I have a thing for him or I'm just jealous because he seems to have an amazing life, manager and is earning a lot at 37 (I'm 21), talks a lot about his parents and siblings at work (he apparently had a great childhood, still goes on holiday with his family and they go to all these expensive places - I had no childhood and wasnt allowed friends), is cultured, has two degrees and an mba, etc. It's not his fiancee I am jealous of it's him.I only have to see him a few more times before I finish work but Im still dreading it. The fact I like him and the fact he seems to be better than me, an abused dropout who's depressed and has done nothing with her life for the last 5 years are awful. I even saw him talking to a new girl at work, not being flirty and complimenting appearance like he is with me but just nice and I felt awful and jealous because he was rude to me the first time we met. I'm trying to deal with my depression though haven't had the courage to see doctor but I can't stop thinking about him and every time I do I feel 10 times worse.Help :S
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reader, devont +, writes (13 May 2015):
 Living with depression is really hard, so firstly, I would really really recommend getting along to a doctor. Also, a good place to start making friends/getting support is elefriends - just google it and sign up. I know it is easier said than done, but I would stop thinking about this guy. You said you only have to see him a few more times, so when you do, just keep your head up and don't pay him any mind. Don't worry about uni or anything either, you can always go back or study from home (which is what I did after I left after first year) if you do want to carry on with education.You need to focus on yourself for a bit, don't worry about anyone else. Have you got friends you can go out with? Or other family you can spend time with to get away from your home situation? If not, please think about signing up for elefriends, as I mentioned above. It will all work out. Chin up :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2015): You dont need courage to see a doctor you just book an appointment. If the receptipnists asks "whats it about" just tell her anything like "its personal!"Depression is nothing to be ashamed of ..in your cicumstances its natural...and some of the drugs are effective if you start them as soon as possible.I am glad you are moving away from this job...he made an effort to be extra nice because he offended you, but dont take it to be anything special. Tell your doctor "the depression is getting me down..." as thats quite a good lead into the fact that you suffer depression. You can also ask for talking therapy. I am sorry youve been bullied..it is a ghastly thing and happens the world over, but your life is your own and you will have talents and gifts that your dull bulliers had no idea about. Talking therapy will help you get stronger and find out how to deal with your feelings in difficult circumstances. I hope youre off to art college or something enjoyable because you deserve a lot more happiness in life and genuine friends who will appreciate the wonderful person you are.x
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (13 May 2015):
 Firstly I would suggest you get yourself to your Dr and discuss your depression, get some meds to help you to cope better.
It might help for you to find a counsellor to chat to about your issues, I do feel with would be of great benefit to you.
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