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writes:Hello. I've been talking to this girl, let's call her Kia, on a friendship basis since about late September, early October. I've always kind of liked her before, but since we've been talking I'm really liking her a whole lot, and I thought she liked me. However, one night she confided in me that she liked a guy, we'll call him Peter. She confided in me how she felt about him, but he didn't like her in the way she liked him. Then she confided in me about another guy, we'll call him Tony. Tony was feeling her for a while, but he ended up liking someone else so thatd idn't work. Finally, when I thought that I could be free to at least consider asking her out, she is beginning to like someone else. This is so frustrating! I've dropped lots and lots of hints trying to get her to realize that I like her, but that hasn't helped. We even had a conversation and she told me that I had everything she wanted in a guy, and I let her know that she had everything I wanted in a girl. Why hasn't she made sense that I want her to go out with me? Each time I get the courage to ask her, I back out in fear of rejection. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): Dear friend, These sorts of situations are difficult to judge without knowing the whole circumstances around the both of you, however, I, in my limited experience, can offer this to you: offen times when a girl behaves like that, it might be her way of urging you to ask her out. Girls like confidence, I find. Ignore the fear of rejection, unless you seriously fear for your reputation. Its only high school, after all; there's plenty of time to continue exparimenting. And, if she hasn't any interest in dating you, oh well. I don't see how that'd corrupt your friendship, and it's better to have tried. Otherwise, you might regret it. (Though you might regret either decision here), so, best of luck, fellow high-schooler!
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