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writes:I am having a hard time because every time I fight with my husband I think about leaving him. I never say this too him (or to anyone really), but I actually start making plans in my mind to get an apartment and do something else. When we are fighting (which does happen regularly enough) I want out, I want someone else. Then after, we make up (kind of) and then I don't want to anymore. Is this abnormal? I feel stupid and a little guilty for going to such an extreme in my mind, and never following up on it. Does anyone else do this?Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, I think what you said about "emotionally leaving" the argument makes sense. Its my way to escape at the moment perhaps. I like your attitude about arguing!
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 "every time I fight with my husband" "start making plans in my mind" "I want out"
In your mind you have already moved "out". The only thing left to do is physically move "out".
For me it came down to "have I had enough yet?" Once I moved out I regretted not moving out sooner. I'm just one guy but I think this is not abnormal. I think this is normal and healthy.
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reader, Abass Abassi  +, writes (19 February 2011):
Dear, if you really love your husband then never ever think of leaving. Everyone fights and quarrels, but that shouldn't cause us to think about leaving our partners.Talk and communicate with your husband, about the ways to sort out the situation. Find the reasons you are fighting.Keep your life happy, don't be mad about silly matters. Enjoy your husband and family.
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