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writes:Hi i am going through a really bad time and need some advice me and my boyfriend decided to try for a baby i fell pregnant but miscarried at 10 weeks 2 days.Later my partner started arguing with me and wouldn't tell me how he feels.How can i support him through this?Also he has said he has no sexual desire and has not thought about sex since the miscarriage.What should i do thank you x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 March 2013):
 I am sorry for the loss of your baby.
Not sure how long it's been but if it's been more than a few months... it may be time for him to seek therapy.
it may be that he's afraid to let you get pregnant again.
sadly 50% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage and until the advent of early pregnancy testing most women did not even know they were losing a baby.
I had a miscarriage in college. I was two weeks late but it was before home pregnancy tests and I never was tested. I thought it was just a very late heavy period (as most women who lost a baby early did)
It was not till my second miscarriage many many years later that the doctor confirmed to me that it was a miscarriage in college.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2013): Maybe you can't. You are after all part of his feelings and when we grief, our feelings ain't always nice and we don't want to hurt the ones we love, so we bottle it up inside.Ask your doctor what options are available for counseling, including talking to a professional each on your own. Don't try to take on the world all on your own, support groups exist for a reason. If nothing else, they allow you to talk to people who have been in your own situation. And the same goes for him, he might be able to talk to other men, without the women present, about what they experienced.
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