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writes:I need help! I don't know who to trust, they've both got bad sides! :(Me and my ex (L) have been friends for a year, and everything is fine, but my best friend (A) at this college hates him and is constantly trying to stop me from being friends with L. I still love L to bits (in a friend way!) so I really don't appreciate what A is doing, I've told him a hundred times and he just says "You can be friends with whoever you want... but L did blah blah blah" So as it stood I thought A was my best friend, and I had trusted him with everything, I told him stuff that no one knows, and L was just a friend. Last night, L and A and one of A and I's friends sat at the dinner table, not one single person even said hi to L, he was COMPLETELY ignored. I was invited to the cinema with JUST A, his mate and another mate of his. L was blatantly not invited, for the whole hour, no one said a single word to him apart from me.So I went back and L was like "A is causing so much hassle for me, I wish he would just leave me alone" Really really upset. I asked him to explain it and he said "You really trust A? T (A's friend) knows absolutely everything about you, because he's a stirrer, everyone knows it apart from you" Then I thought and it's true, T knows stuff about me that only A should know. :( So A is telling people stuff that I say in private. I also found out that he's caused a lot of problems between me and L and me and another one of my friends. :(So I went up to T's room, and said "Can L come, he's feeling a little low tonight?" and she gave me the most evil face I've ever seen, she looked so disgusted, and said "Daaarling, I just think that L would ruin this thing we have, y'know the 4 of us... Without L" I was actually HORRIFIED. I hate people being left out!!!!!!So L was right. :( Now I don't know if I can trust my best friend. We're meant to be getting a flat together for uni! Help! :(
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (13 March 2013):
 HI
I think they are being very mean and childish, I would not move in with T she sounds like she could be back stabbing A !B!***H ...you seem like a good person and know what is going on here, so do what is right, don't let these people be bullies to you OR your ex, you remained friends for a reason, and maybe other people can't handle that but it don't give them the right to act this way. Who you choose to be friends with is your choice, if you move in with T what else is she going to try and control or manipulate? really really think about this .
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Mandy x
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