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*londy
writes:Has anyone else ever felt like they weren't good enought to be with their partner? Sometimes when I am with him I feel like he is so far beyond the best person imaginable and I feel so inferior just being in his presence. He isn't doing this on purpose its just who he is, is so amazing that I think he is too good for me. He is absolutely stunning to look at and he is going to be very wealthy when he graduates and he is so smart and deep and I know that he is better than me in every way and I am feeling really insecure. I have never ever had this problem before as I have always had a lot of confidence in myself. I am a model in L.A. and so I am usually very secure with my looks except sometimes when I look at him I don't think I am pretty or smart enough to deserve him. He could be with ANY woman he wanted and I don't know why he's with me, I feel so undeserving of him sometimes. I have never been insecure about my body or my looks or anything until lately. We have been dating for 2 years and I am starting to feel less and less worthy of him and it is driving me crazy. Lately this has started to bug him too because when I tell him I feel like this he just says thats stupid and tells me I'm beautiful. Does anybody else ever feel like this? How do you deal with these feelings of inferiority? Is this normal or am I being stupid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): I feel that way about the woman I am so deeply in love with. She is so incredible, I can't even put it into words. The guy she's with now is truly the luckiest soul on earth. Sometimes I feel like nothing more then a blip on her radar. It's the reason she'll never get to know how I feel about her.
It's something we have to work on fixing ourselves. It would kill me to know someone I love feels like they're inadequate in any way compared to me.
Believe your boyfriend when he tells you otherwise. If he's as great as you say, he'll mean what he says.
- Alex
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (11 May 2009):
 I used to feel like this. My boyfriend is so loving and understanding and i used to sit there at night and question myself why is he with someone like me? Its because he loves me for who i am.
Your boyfriend also loves you for who you are. 2 years is a long time, if he was just with you for a fling he would of moved on by now but hes still with you and is completely in love with you.
Beauty is from the inside. Anyone can like someone for looks but it your personality that they fall head over heals in love with.
You just have to think, if he didn't love me he wouldn't be with me, but he is with me and has been for two years, we are happy together, i love him and i KNOW he loves me.
Good luck babe
Livia
xoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): I feel like that all the time with my girlfriend. Lack of self-esteem is the problem. We tend to idolise these people. It's all a case of internal perception. The fact that he's with you means that he wants you. And if he thinks you're "good enough" as you term it, then why shouldn't you?
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