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51-59,
*adybird
writes:just recently found out my patner has been secretly texting another woman. i lost my temper and threw him out .he says it is innocent and now says he wants to get a flat because he cant handle the kids im so confused please help.
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reader, Pork Hock  +, writes (21 May 2007):
You only lost your temper! I would be enraged, volcanic!...the whole getting my own flat thing because he's stressed and of course blames the kids is just a pathetic excuse. What does he mean he can't handle the kids? Lucky him, what does he think your doing, having picnics and playing tiddly winks?
He's been caught red-handed and he is trying to make out that the kids, you or your lifestyle is to blame. Let him move out, pay another rent, your rent/mortgage and support for his kids and see how stressed he feels his life is, who is to blame for all his stupid texts? My question would be why, why are you texting women, why do you blame the kids and lastly I would tell him to grow up...and by the way, you don't need another child to deal with, he seems to be the most troublesome to deal with, love and find happiness in your children who love you unconditionally.
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reader, ladybird +, writes (21 May 2007):
ladybird is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi thanks for your advice. ive been with him for 4 years and when he came into the reationship he took on board the responsibility of the kids. He says he still wanted me but not the kids. he has just started a new job too and im wondering if this is a case of the grass is greener orits because ha using it as excuse because ive caught him out. I love him so much. I dont wanna let him go but i know i have to. The woman is from work he said and it was a harmless bit of flirting, banter nothing in it . why would he hurt me like this ive done everything for him
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reader, DV1  +, writes (21 May 2007):
 It sounds like he wants to be single again. Some people never truly grow up, regardless of what responsibilities they put on their plate, or what choices that they make.
I think that it's best for the kids that you find someone more mentally prepared to handle both them and a relationship.
Best wishes,
DV1
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