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writes: I like this guy who has a girlfriend. He said he liked her but when I asked if he liked me he said yes. I want ot go out with him. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): I have the same issue. But I have gotten advice from all my friends. One this to do is to see if there about to break up. If so wait until they do and ask to hang out as friends and then help him get over her. Then ask him out when he's had at least 1 week of time to get over her per month him and his girlfriend were together. If they don't seem like their going to break up soon, wait till they do get to it and wait for them to break up; in the mean time prove to him that you would be a really good girlfriend; better than the one he has now. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): i am in the exact same situation as you and i have been for a year now.
he had a gf then he finished with her, then i was ther for him like i said id be then a year later after months of him saying ' i dnt do relationships but i still want just you'
he went and got another gf and he still expects me to be ther for him ' i still like you'
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tbh, dnt get as far down the line as i have koz then thers relly no going back. koz more of one thing you get attatched to it.
but maybe all guys arent like that its really down to the individual. goodluck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): i am in the same situation as you so i know it sucks but the best thing to do is not date him. Stay friends with him and if he ends up not liking this girl then you'll be there but that might not be the best because he would think that he can just keep you aside and you'll wait for him. do you want that. idk well, im not doing so great with him so its ur decision to take my advice or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2005): I am in the exact situation as you are. and i know how hard it can be! my best advice to you is remain friends with this guy, and please consider his girlfriends feelings as well. liking a guy with a girlfriend is a very risky situation, you know more about the situation than i do, so just use your best judgement and try not to let anyone get hurt. Belive me i know how hard this situation can be! so just take it easy and good luck to you! i hope that every thing will be ok.
anoymous
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2005): leave him alone if he has someone else go for another guy
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reader, ***lisa*** +, writes (2 September 2005):
do you really want to go out someone who you know cheated on his girl to go out with you?!! what makes you so special to stop him looking at someone else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2005): It would be a big mistake to go out with him seeing as he has a girlfriend as if she finds out that you two have been going out then it puts you in a big messy situation. If i were you i wouldn't go out with him and look for someone who doesn't have a girlfriend and is avaliable. That way you can go out with him without being caught by his girlfriend.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (2 September 2005):
 This is how cat fights start and chicks get maimed by other chicks! If you know he has a girlfriend..honey why are you going there? Other People's Property is off limits! Haven't you heard that before! Of course he is going to tell you anything to get into you panties..hellloooo he is a man!!!! It's called the power of pussy..! Listen..stay clear...and move into the opposite direction. You have no right breaking up a relationship regardless of if he says the world of awful things about his girlfriend. Move onto another man.
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reader, Delila +, writes (1 September 2005):
Well it sounds like it might become a bit of a messy situation if you do go out with him. You might enjoy the challenge of "taking" a guy away from another girl. I would advise you to steer clear, admire from a distance but us girls need to stick together, not be there to pump up the male ego.
Delila
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (1 September 2005):
 I know this is a tempting situation - you like him, he likes you etc - but I advise you to stay away from him. Or, at the least, tell him that you'd love to go out with him ***when he's single***.
If you try to start something with a guy who already has a girlfriend, you're going to look a bit sleazy, but you're also breaking up a couple and you're going to be responsible for the hurt caused to his current girlfriend. That's some pretty serious culpability and I hope that you'll think about that and decide not to be that kind of person, just to satisfy your own whims.
Another factor to consider is that this guy doesn't seem like he cares much about his girlfriend's feelings, if he'd be prepared to date someone else behind her back. Can you picture how you'd feel if you were the girlfriend he was sneaking around on? Well, judging from this fellow's history, you might be the next girl he cheats on. Do think about that, too.
Taken all together, this doesn't sound like a winning combination. I'd strongly suggest you either find someone who isn't attached (that shouldn't be hard), or let this guy know that you won't date him while he's still got a girlfriend. If you do the second thing, then go into any relationship with your eyes wide open to his potentially untrustworthy history.
Good luck.
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