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writes: I've had sex 3 times and every time hurt just as much as the first time but I was just as nervous as the first time also. Is this normal or is this something I should have checked out? Reply to this Question
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reader, Granny +, writes (18 July 2006):
 You poor thing, sex should not be painful. First thing, do not agree to have sex unless you really want it and feel relaxed about it. Obviously, you are going to be nervous next time as it has hurt up to now. Try using a lubricating cream and be sure you have lots of stimulation to get you horny before you start. Not hot? then don't do it.
If your boyfriend has a large penis, you might like to consider changing position with you on top so that you can control penetration.
If you are unhappy, stressed and tense or unwilling, never agree to sex. Your boyfriend must respect this. Only say yes if you really want it. It can be so good - so wishing you all the best xxx
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (18 July 2006):
 The first three times are the worse for some people its normally because your not completely comfortable with the situation so you tend to tence up.
so maybe spending a little bit more time with foreplay and exploring each others body will help you become more comfortable with each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): I don't think there is anything "wrong" with you. You could be one of the few woman whose body doesn't produce enough lube.
Yes, certainly address any concerns with a doctor.
More foreplay and KY jelly (a lubricant aid) or some other form of lube that won't react with your body will do wonders...there is saliva.
Also, is there a chance that guilt, lack of trust, uncertainties, or fears may be playing in the head?
This may also contribute to the lack of lubricant because a woman in desire should be lubing.
I would consult a physician.
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