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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating my girlfriend for almost two years now, living together for one. During this span of time she's done A LOT of pretty awful things that have really hurt me. About a year and a half ago, she had a hickey on her neck - that wasn't from me - that she tried to play off as a pinch mark from her mom. In my heart I knew she was lying to me, but when you love someone you believe what you want to hear. So I did, until about two months later when she accidentally called my cell phone while I was at work and unintentionally left me a message of her talking to her friends in the background about how it was a hickey from this particular person, and that I actually believed it. It was a freak accident but it happened. I was devistated. Sickened. I confronted her and she begged for my forgiveness. I was certain I wouldn't forgive her but like I said, it's hard when you love someone and they're saying all the right things. I took a couple of days to really think it over and decided to try and move past it.Two months later, she broke up with me out of the blue. I never saw it coming. I was crushed. I kept trying to understand why and she couldn't really give me any closure. I drove two hours to her house (we lived apart at this point) and just showed up. Turns out she was seeing someone else. Once again, she begged me back and said she was sorry and messed up and would do anything. Like a fool, I forgave her again.About six months later we moved in together (I know I'm an idiot), and this past January I discovered that she'd been cheating on me. She was driving back to where she was from on the weekends to see this different girl when I believed she was visiting her family. Once again, I was destroyed. This time worse than ever. And of course she begged again. Called the girl on the phone and ended the relationship in front of me, blocked her from calling her cell phone, blocked her from facebook, etc. But I didn't believe I could forgive her. How can someone forgive all these things? I was persistent that it was over and she needed to move out, but this is our apartment and I didn't know how to force her to leave. And I couldn't just leave myself. And she was going nowhere. She continued to show me all the things that would change if I just forgave her. After a few days I finally caved and started to fall back into the pattern of being together. She was doing all the things I needed and like a damn sucker I did my best to forgive. Well here it is two months later and she's right back to her old ways. Doing all the little things she swore she wouldn't do. I knew it would happen. And last night I snapped and told her I was done and she needed to go. I went out for a drive to cool down and while gone she sent me a text with a picture of my guitar thrown over the side of the balcony with text that said "if you come home and get to looking for your guitar, here it is." I have never been one to put up with all this crap. I can't believe I have for so long. I am ashamed of myself. I guess my real question is how does one get over someone moving out? I know she's got to go. Problem is, she's got a five year old son that I love so much and I would do anything for. And she's threatened to not let me see him anymore. I am so confused. I just need advice on how to be strong while she's in the process of leaving. Please help.
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reader, mrs.heartbroken +, writes (7 March 2011):
hunny i'm in your same exact shoes except i'm still here with my husband. you put up with it because you love her. they tend to say all the perfect things. it's hard when you're living with someone, because you know once they grab their things, they're gone.And it hurts like hell, when that door closes behind them. Good thing is you put your foot down and said it's enough. unlike myself, i'm still putting up with this rubbish. good luck girl everything will be fine. you'll be better off on your own, believe me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): I feel for you on this, I am out of a 7 year one,different case but same shit again and again,without any break from it. The moment i was off,several others are on. I relate to you, i feel embarrassed that i even knew her. You need to put it well and truly behind you. If anything nice pops to your thoughts,just remember,she was cheating too. That type of personality never changes. I bet she was even telling you she loved you. This type of person also believes they are in love with everyone they meet, and very quickly.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 March 2011):
 She sounds like a cold manipulative bitch to be honest.
I would tell her to pack her junk and move out. ( I assume the lease is in your name). Don't leave the house while she packs or have a couple of friends to come over while she is packing.
She will not change. She doesn't see why she should, you forgave in the past.
Don't let her walk all over you.
As for her son. I'm sorry she is being so selfish, I'm pretty sure the little guy has WAY more to gain with you in his life then without you.
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