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writes:How do you get over someone??? I dated someone for a few weeks he broke it off and its been over month now since and I still like him a lot and can't stop thinking about him. I have been on a few dates with other men but it really hasn't helped. He wanted to remain "friends" he took me to lunch and we have talked about going to lunch but my friends think I should cut off contact with him and not hangout with him. My guy friend thinks him taking me to lunch and being my "friend" is just making himself feel better and less of a jerk for breaking it off with me. What should I do? Break off the "friendship" what can I do to get over him and stop liking him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers. I think I agreed to the friendship at first because I was in denial and I thought maybe he would change his mind and start liking me again. But its already the new year and he dumped me the week before thanksgiving I guess I'm just fooling myself. I talked with him via text before new years about the movies...when I tell him I need time to get over it I don't want to seem crazy
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (5 January 2010):
 No, don't go to the movies with him. The more you try to remain "friends" the more difficult it will be for you to get over him. You'll be rubbing salt in your wound.
All you need do is tell him it's over, no more contact. Don't permit him to argue with you about it, or try to persuade you. Just tell him no, not gonna happen. End of conversation, end of contact.
By the way: if he wants to be your "friend" and less of a jerk for ending things, that's HIS problem. Let him find a way to feel less of a jerk that doesn't involve you......
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thanks for the advice. We dated for like 2 months and we have been broken up for a month and a half and I'm still not over him...he wants to go to the movies soon. What should I say? "sorry I think I need some more time, I still have feelings for you"? Is that good?
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